Go Back   getDare Truth or Dare > Blogs > The Butterfly Effect

A random assortment of reports, thoughts, ramblings and information. Pretty much a view inside my wonderfully complicated, sometimes broken, and entertaining mind.
Rating: 4 votes, 5.00 average.

The versatility of orgasm control

Posted 12-01-2020 at 07:03 PM by Butterfly

Orgasm control is one of my favorite kinks as both a Domme and sub. Controlling somebody's pleasure can be so powerful and just plain HOT!

Usually when people think of orgasm control, they automatically think of denial. That seems to be one of the most popular kinks. Most of people are actually really surprised when I tell them that denial is a limit of mine.

But wait! How can I love orgasm control but not do denial? Because there is so much more to orgasm control than just asking permission and saying "yes" or "no".

No touch
No touch is when you are prohibited from touching yourself sexually. This could mean just genitals, but it could also mean nipples, or ass, or any other arousing body parts. For some, not being allowed to touch actually makes them more desperate and horny, increasing the need and want to cum. Others can get bored if they aren't allowed to touch. It might be mildly annoying but then "out of sight, out of mind". Varying lengths of time can really vary the effects of this order.

Forced touching
Forced touching is obviously the opposite of not being allowed to touch. Forced touch could mean the act of being in physical contact with your cock, nipple, clit, etc. or it could mean active touching (ie. stroking your cock). The goal of forced touching is typically to increase desire, though depending on how it is used, and the person, it can have a range of reactions. I like to force Jaro to just hold his cock. It can be inconvenient to have one hand tied up while trying to do house work or ... anything really. It can also be frustrating to have to hold your cock, being constantly aware of it but not being allowed to stroke. On the other hand, being forced to actively stroke your clit or use a toy on your clit for a certain period of time, but not being allowed to reach and edge is also frustrating.

Edging
An edge is building up pleasure until you are almost ready to orgasm and then stopping. I personally love edging. I love the feeling of the build, and the ache of stopping. For some, edging is REALLY hard and it can take a long time to get there, and some just can't. Others have an easy time edging. But no matter the person, a lot of creativity can be added to the task of edging. You can choose how many edges, how to reach the edge, and even how long they should "hold" the edge. Edging can be done over days or weeks to build up the desperation to cum over a period of denial, or it can make an orgasm feel so much more amazing after a long session of edging.

Ruined orgasm
A ruined orgasm happens when you tip over the "edge" but then remove all stimulation. Depending on the person, this can have a couple different effects. For me, this makes my body shudder as if I was having an orgasm, but the pleasure is very minimal. Afterwards, it leaves me feeling disappointed and SO sensitive. So I can't typically continue masturbating. It is more mental for me than physical I think. Especially if I spent a long time building up to an amazing release and then it is just wasted. Others may find that ruins will make them even hornier. Honestly I think that ruins are even more evil than denial.

Orgasm permission
This is my all time favorite. When I talk about orgasm control, it is the permission that I am wanting to focus on. Of course I love to be told yes (though the thought of being no turns me on), but knowing that an orgasm isn't guaranteed is hot! There is so much that you can do with orgasm permission: how many edges? what toys? what technique? where? what should you wear? what porn or other aids should be used? Do I need to earn it in some way? There is so much creativity to be had! I love to make people orgasm while singing, or with some form of pain.

Post-orgasm torture
After an orgasm, most people find themselves extremely sensitive. So being told to continue to stroke, or stimulate yourself can be absolutely TORTURE!!! But doing something that you don't want to do only because you want to please your D person, is so freaking powerful - and as the D type, it is freaking hot to watch somebody suffer for you.

Forced orgasms
Some people are blessed with the ability to have multiple orgasms. For some it can just happen immediately after if stimulation is continuous, while others may need a break. Being forced to orgasm over and over can be exhausting and the overstimulation can become painful. Using pleasure against somebody is a powerful mind fuck!

Denial
Not being allowed to cum for a length of time. Some people thrive with denial, they love the tease, the build up, the aching and throbbing, needy desperation, hornyness. Jaro has a goal of 1 year of denial (which is over halfway done). For others denial is more of a punishment.

Chastity
Chastity refers to being denied but using a chastity device to keep your genitals locked up. For woman this could be a belt, while men tend to use a cage. This adds a whole different layer to denial. Especially if you have a key holder who literally holds the key to your pleasure.



There are so many different ways to control a persons orgasms. Your only limitations are your creativity and ... well ... actual limits. If some part doesn't work for you, maybe another aspect of it will. And if none of it works for you? That's fine!!! We aren't all the same. But have fun with it because kink should be fun, and HOT!!!
Posted in Uncategorized
Views 1214 Comments 6
« Prev     Main     Next »
Total Comments 6

Comments

  1. Old Comment
    Jaro's Avatar
    Indeed, SOO many ways!

    I don't like edging (of I probably would if I were good at it), but I "love" all the others. You once made me orgasm 5 times in a day, which was a record for me. At one point that kind of turned from pleasure to evil as I literally had to squeeze them out!

    Post-orgasm torture is really evil too. Especially "polishing the apple" as it is also known as for guys.
    Posted 12-01-2020 at 10:27 PM by Jaro Jaro is offline
  2. Old Comment
    Very good explanation. Thank you for sharing that
    Posted 12-02-2020 at 10:55 PM by Maisha Maisha is offline
  3. Old Comment
    I agree so so much. Anyone that tells your orgasm play is about Yes/No just isn't creative. Personally I struggle so hard with edging and it usually involves me tipping into ruined orgasm territory, which oddly I dont mind so much. Its briefly frustrating but means I'm good to go again in minutes.

    Im not sure if you've ever done Red light/Green light....Orange Light but that is my 100% favourite form of orgasm control!
    Posted 12-03-2020 at 11:20 AM by Clueless1 Clueless1 is offline
  4. Old Comment
    Butterfly's Avatar
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Clueless1 View Comment
    Im not sure if you've ever done Red light/Green light....Orange Light but that is my 100% favourite form of orgasm control!
    With my last sub, Mr. Devious and I would call him and we would play START/STOP. Mr. Devious would say start, I would say stop, and we would torture him relentlessly and it was soooooo amazing.

    I also enjoy the game as a sub with my Dom controlling my magic wand.
    Posted 12-03-2020 at 01:19 PM by Butterfly Butterfly is offline
  5. Old Comment
    Quote:
    Originally Posted by Butterfly View Comment
    With my last sub, Mr. Devious and I would call him and we would play START/STOP. Mr. Devious would say start, I would say stop, and we would torture him relentlessly and it was soooooo amazing.

    I also enjoy the game as a sub with my Dom controlling my magic wand.
    Im so jealous! That is one lucky lucky sub. Ill just stick to those red light/green video from...other sources
    Posted 12-04-2020 at 06:25 AM by Clueless1 Clueless1 is offline
  6. Old Comment
    Kroysubmissive's Avatar
    Well written and I couldn’t agree more. Thank you for sharing this.
    Posted 12-22-2020 at 11:15 AM by Kroysubmissive Kroysubmissive is offline
 

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 07:25 AM.

Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.11
Copyright ©2000 - 2024, vBulletin Solutions Inc. - Also check out Kink Talk!reptilelaborer