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wannatry2
06-06-2011, 10:28 AM
Love some of the anal tortures on here loof fun...but i struggle to get anything in. what do i need to do to enjoy the games?

Pet Phoenix
06-06-2011, 11:11 AM
*rolls out the texbook response for beginners to anal play* ;)

1. Start small
2. Be paitient
3. Use common sense
4. If it hurts your doing it wrong
5. Use lube

I've had quite a few friends here and there work up from being so tight they could barley get a finger in to easily accomodating large toys and things. Just take it nice and slow, it would be best if you went and invested in a proper toy designed for anal beginners; something with a very narrow tip and a very gently tapering or graduated width, this is going to be safest and easiest and your going to run the least risk of doing any damage. I appreciate that toys aren't available to everyone for whatever reason but even high street sex stores stock suitable items.

If you can't go with a toy then your going to want to stick to your fingers or things you can find around the place that will be suitable.. some people find pens suitable, i personally would adivse i carrot or similar fruit or veg, your likeley to find a carrot that's going to be narrow enough for you to begin practicing though. i don't know what else is going to be available, perhaps people can venture some suggestions for if you can't get your hands on a toy but the key is to start off small and work your way up very gradually, one finger, then two, then three.. that sort of thing, taking the time to get used to each step up in size before moving onto the next.

Do think about the things your putting up there.. make sure they are clean and won't have any harmful bacteria on, don't use anything that is made of glass (unless it's a glass sex toy) or anything with sharp or rough edges, just use common sense and remember that the lining of your anus is comparativley very fragile.. don't use anything you aren't going to be able to keep a good hold of either and don't let anything you put up there go; keep hold of it.. you don't want anything getting lost ;)

If you take your time you should be able to work yourself up without any pain, discomofort maybe but outright pain can be avoided, your body will tell you if your pushing too hard :p or going too fast.

Finally, use pleanty of lubricant.. as in honestly, you can never ever ever have too much.. it's avalaible in chemists, drug stores, super markets, corner shops.. invest in some.. lube both your hole and the item you using and don't be afraid to reapply. A dab of spit isn't going to cut it, go and get some proper lube *nods*

Hehe I guess that's about all i could say on the matter ^^ best of luck and your in for an awesome time ;) Some of the stuff i can take now is scary but i was just the same once, and don't know how much i'd give to go back to where you are and do it all over again :P hehe

Star Shadows
06-06-2011, 11:56 AM
*rolls out the texbook response for beginners to anal play* ;)

1. Start small
2. Be paitient
3. Use common sense
4. If it hurts your doing it wrong
5. Use lube

I've had quite a few friends here and there work up from being so tight they could barley get a finger in to easily accomodating large toys and things. Just take it nice and slow, it would be best if you went and invested in a proper toy designed for anal beginners; something with a very narrow tip and a very gently tapering or graduated width, this is going to be safest and easiest and your going to run the least risk of doing any damage. I appreciate that toys aren't available to everyone for whatever reason but even high street sex stores stock suitable items.

If you can't go with a toy then your going to want to stick to your fingers or things you can find around the place that will be suitable.. some people find pens suitable, i personally would adivse i carrot or similar fruit or veg, your likeley to find a carrot that's going to be narrow enough for you to begin practicing though. i don't know what else is going to be available, perhaps people can venture some suggestions for if you can't get your hands on a toy but the key is to start off small and work your way up very gradually, one finger, then two, then three.. that sort of thing, taking the time to get used to each step up in size before moving onto the next.

Do think about the things your putting up there.. make sure they are clean and won't have any harmful bacteria on, don't use anything that is made of glass (unless it's a glass sex toy) or anything with sharp or rough edges, just use common sense and remember that the lining of your anus is comparativley very fragile.. don't use anything you aren't going to be able to keep a good hold of either and don't let anything you put up there go; keep hold of it.. you don't want anything getting lost ;)

If you take your time you should be able to work yourself up without any pain, discomofort maybe but outright pain can be avoided, your body will tell you if your pushing too hard :p or going too fast.

Finally, use pleanty of lubricant.. as in honestly, you can never ever ever have too much.. it's avalaible in chemists, drug stores, super markets, corner shops.. invest in some.. lube both your hole and the item you using and don't be afraid to reapply. A dab of spit isn't going to cut it, go and get some proper lube *nods*

Hehe I guess that's about all i could say on the matter ^^ best of luck and your in for an awesome time ;) Some of the stuff i can take now is scary but i was just the same once, and don't know how much i'd give to go back to where you are and do it all over again :P hehe

Pet Phoenix really has hit the nail on the head with advice for this- while it is very simple so many people get it wrong.

Starting small and using plenty of lube are very important. Lube makes it so much easier to get things inside as the anus has no natural lubrication. In trying things that are larger than you are ready for, and in not using any/enough lube you risk causing yourself a lot of damage.

It is also a matter of common sense again as has already been said. If it seems to big to start off with then it most probably is.

Last advice I can give just as Pet Phoenix said take it slowly. A big problem that people have is trying too fast. It isnt a race and there isnt a set time that it has to be in by- go as slowly or as quickly as you feel comfortable with. If it hurts you are doing something wrong. Slow down and use more lube.

X shadows

Leopard
06-06-2011, 03:20 PM
Moved to Advice.

wannatry2
06-06-2011, 03:23 PM
thanks...looking forward to trying it all

femdomslave
06-07-2011, 05:12 AM
Really helpful! Thanks from me too!

daremaster 1
06-07-2011, 05:15 AM
I will try the steps and see how it goes.

wannatry2
06-07-2011, 05:28 AM
worked.......only managed an inch or two but reckon more very soon

carom
06-07-2011, 05:36 AM
Last advice I can give just as Pet Phoenix said take it slowly. A big problem that people have is trying too fast. It isnt a race and there isnt a set time that it has to be in by- go as slowly or as quickly as you feel comfortable with. If it hurts you are doing something wrong. Slow down and use more lube.

One pronlem is porn

That is why i want to say

Forget porn!

95% is unrealistic and cut and done by people that did train it.

Star Shadows
06-07-2011, 08:59 AM
One pronlem is porn

That is why i want to say

Forget porn!

95% is unrealistic and cut and done by people that did train it.

yea this exactly.
(same in s/m too-too many people think porn is real)

BE CAREFUL
and just because a porn person get x y and or z up there in under a minute and a half of footage does not mean you have to be able to/ will be able to without a considerable amount of training before hand. Dont put your own body at risk.

nellybell
06-07-2011, 04:27 PM
So, a few things to add but not much because the posters above are super awsome.

If you can't manage to get a hold of actual lube, I wrote a post on lubes found around the house a while ago that should help you in that department and can be found..... here ---> http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showpost.php?p=432538&postcount=13

Next, make sure that anything you attempt to insert is cleaned prior to doing so and then is clean VERY well cleaned after use. Avoid taking something out and putting it down straight after. Not only will there be ickies and nasties on where you left it but you may also forget to wash it later and risk you or someone else touching it and getting sick from it. Always wash your hands after as well. Obviously that is VERY important if you're using your fingers ;)

Lastly, If you start bleeding you STOP. You may also very much want to consider a doctors trip. If you hurt yourself don't play for a couple weeks after so you have pleanty of time to heal up and don't redamage anything. Even if you have a little bit of pain there after play don't do anything until the pain has ended. If You're hurting you are doing/did something wrong.

daremaster 1
06-07-2011, 05:32 PM
So, a few things to add but not much because the posters above are super awsome.

If you can't manage to get a hold of actual lube, I wrote a post on lubes found around the house a while ago that should help you in that department and can be found..... here ---> http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showpost.php?p=432538&postcount=13

Next, make sure that anything you attempt to insert is cleaned prior to doing so and then is clean VERY well cleaned after use. Avoid taking something out and putting it down straight after. Not only will there be ickies and nasties on where you left it but you may also forget to wash it later and risk you or someone else touching it and getting sick from it. Always wash your hands after as well. Obviously that is VERY important if you're using your fingers ;)

Lastly, If you start bleeding you STOP. You may also very much want to consider a doctors trip. If you hurt yourself don't play for a couple weeks after so you have pleanty of time to heal up and don't redamage anything. Even if you have a little bit of pain there after play don't do anything until the pain has ended. If You're hurting you are doing/did something wrong.

Thank you nelly! This will help me in some dares.