jaxman
12-29-2007, 02:54 AM
Inspired by Naughty Chloe's thread
What's the meanest worst thing you've ever done to someone else, who was it and what were the circumstances, did you learn anything from the experience.
For me it was my best friend for whom I was a mentor, we were in a business venture together and I knew he had other stuff going on (problems with his girlfriend - I didn't know at the time how he felt about her but he really loved her - she didn't feel the same way). There's more to this but suffice it to say my timing was horrible. I didn't feel like he was pulling his weight and at some point I told him "I'm not your father, I'm not your mother, I'm not your girlfriend I don't care what you've got going on, are we doing this or not" Maybe it wasn't the words but, my affect was hurtful, I was angry and I wanted it to hurt him. I saw that it did and didn't relent, we didn't talk for almost a year after that. So much time has passed but I still feel guilty for having done that - so much so I've distanced myself from him despite his best efforts to keep the friendship going.
What I learned: No matter how it feels at the time, no matter how justified you feel - it's never ok to be intentionally cruel.
Mike
What's the meanest worst thing you've ever done to someone else, who was it and what were the circumstances, did you learn anything from the experience.
For me it was my best friend for whom I was a mentor, we were in a business venture together and I knew he had other stuff going on (problems with his girlfriend - I didn't know at the time how he felt about her but he really loved her - she didn't feel the same way). There's more to this but suffice it to say my timing was horrible. I didn't feel like he was pulling his weight and at some point I told him "I'm not your father, I'm not your mother, I'm not your girlfriend I don't care what you've got going on, are we doing this or not" Maybe it wasn't the words but, my affect was hurtful, I was angry and I wanted it to hurt him. I saw that it did and didn't relent, we didn't talk for almost a year after that. So much time has passed but I still feel guilty for having done that - so much so I've distanced myself from him despite his best efforts to keep the friendship going.
What I learned: No matter how it feels at the time, no matter how justified you feel - it's never ok to be intentionally cruel.
Mike