Pit
10-22-2010, 01:06 PM
Hello all!
Let me first say, I don't presume to know anything. I need some advice and I will try to tell you things as I see them. I'm new to all this and I don't pretend to be any kind of an expert on the subject. I'm just a guy trying to learn more about whom I am and how I can make someone close to me happy.
Ok, so I'll cut right to the chase. I've been seeing this girl for a few months now and I really do love her. I want to make her happy and give her what she needs. To be honest, I never thought I could get into this, but it's so fucking addictive now. I can't see myself having sex any other way. I feel so fucking powerful. I get this rush of passion, emotion, and sheer adrenalin every time we are together. I think she is a Submissive. She says things like
1) "when the situation is right, I like to be called filthy names in Bed and in Public."
2) "I like slow teasing. I want you to deny me. I want you to make me beg to cum".
3) "I love it when you slap my Ass, Nipples, and Pussy".
4) "I want you to hold me down and fuck me hard".
5) "I want to be tied up while you fuck me".
6) "I like light Biting, Choking, Spanking and Slapping".
7) "Make me be quite during sex and if I make noise you should punish me".
So, I'm not sure if I'm doing things like she wants. I mean when I do the things she asks, she just zones out and becomes unresponsive. She goes to another place. She still whimpers, moans and cries out in what I think is pleasure, but she just so out of it. Like she's drunk or something. She won't look at me she won't talk to me. After we are done she gets quiet and comes around. She tells me it was great and I did fine, but I feel insecure. I'm not sure what to think.
Now, there are a number of things she says she doesn't like...
1) "I don't want to be slapped or hit in the face or head".
2) "I don't want to give oral".
3) "I don't like cum on my face, mouth, or hair".
4) "I don't want to be called "cunt".
5) "I don't like to be on top".
6) "I don't like to be given oral".
So, is this normal? Is what she asking for really what she wants? I don't know. Anyhow, now that you have some background, I want to ask some questions if possible.
1) She says she wants me to call her filthy names in bed and in public. She says it gets her going. It's part of foreplay for her I think. Now, I've tried this and it just seems so awkward. I know this is a game, but I have trouble because I've never been with someone who wanted this kind of treatment.
I do understand that I'm only giving her what she wants, so it's ok. But, I need to know what to say and how to say it...as I'm sure you are aware, timing is also an issue. I mean you just don't say certain things at certain times.
So what do you guys think? I know she wants it, I just need to do it in a way that gets her going and doesn't sound silly or over the top. It needs to be just right.
2) We are in a long distance relationship at the moment. I work all over the world and it's rare as of late that I'm home. We talk, text, and email every day. So, we do keep in contact. My problem is, I know how horny she gets and I want to help her feel better. I'm going to be around more and more as the months go by, but for now we are apart and it sucks for both of us. How can I keep her somewhat entertained? How can I provide some level of attention from such a great distance? Suggestions, thoughts???
3) She says she likes this book called "THE TAKING OF SLEEPING BEAUTY" by Anne Rice. As a teen she read it and she had her first sexual release by doing so. She loves only a few sections of the work, but it's those few passages that really get her off. She won't tell me what in particular she likes about the book, but she says she skips the Male Homosexual scenes. I read the book looking for pointers as to how I can better please her. I've tried to do some of those things, but it's kind of difficult in the context of the pages. My question is, given what you know of this book, what would you say she's into? She gets so embarrassed when I try to talk about it with her. I guess, I'm looking for some sort of profile based on that information.
4) She likes long slow teasing before sex. She says she wants me to bring her to the point of "Frustration". She wants me to make her beg for release. So, my question is given what you know, how can I do this Slow, Teasing in other ways? Are there games we could play? Do you know anyone like this?
I know this is all too long, so I'm going to cut it short. I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts on the subject. She is an amazing girl and I think we have a future together. I just need to understand how to better meet her
Let me first say, I don't presume to know anything. I need some advice and I will try to tell you things as I see them. I'm new to all this and I don't pretend to be any kind of an expert on the subject. I'm just a guy trying to learn more about whom I am and how I can make someone close to me happy.
Ok, so I'll cut right to the chase. I've been seeing this girl for a few months now and I really do love her. I want to make her happy and give her what she needs. To be honest, I never thought I could get into this, but it's so fucking addictive now. I can't see myself having sex any other way. I feel so fucking powerful. I get this rush of passion, emotion, and sheer adrenalin every time we are together. I think she is a Submissive. She says things like
1) "when the situation is right, I like to be called filthy names in Bed and in Public."
2) "I like slow teasing. I want you to deny me. I want you to make me beg to cum".
3) "I love it when you slap my Ass, Nipples, and Pussy".
4) "I want you to hold me down and fuck me hard".
5) "I want to be tied up while you fuck me".
6) "I like light Biting, Choking, Spanking and Slapping".
7) "Make me be quite during sex and if I make noise you should punish me".
So, I'm not sure if I'm doing things like she wants. I mean when I do the things she asks, she just zones out and becomes unresponsive. She goes to another place. She still whimpers, moans and cries out in what I think is pleasure, but she just so out of it. Like she's drunk or something. She won't look at me she won't talk to me. After we are done she gets quiet and comes around. She tells me it was great and I did fine, but I feel insecure. I'm not sure what to think.
Now, there are a number of things she says she doesn't like...
1) "I don't want to be slapped or hit in the face or head".
2) "I don't want to give oral".
3) "I don't like cum on my face, mouth, or hair".
4) "I don't want to be called "cunt".
5) "I don't like to be on top".
6) "I don't like to be given oral".
So, is this normal? Is what she asking for really what she wants? I don't know. Anyhow, now that you have some background, I want to ask some questions if possible.
1) She says she wants me to call her filthy names in bed and in public. She says it gets her going. It's part of foreplay for her I think. Now, I've tried this and it just seems so awkward. I know this is a game, but I have trouble because I've never been with someone who wanted this kind of treatment.
I do understand that I'm only giving her what she wants, so it's ok. But, I need to know what to say and how to say it...as I'm sure you are aware, timing is also an issue. I mean you just don't say certain things at certain times.
So what do you guys think? I know she wants it, I just need to do it in a way that gets her going and doesn't sound silly or over the top. It needs to be just right.
2) We are in a long distance relationship at the moment. I work all over the world and it's rare as of late that I'm home. We talk, text, and email every day. So, we do keep in contact. My problem is, I know how horny she gets and I want to help her feel better. I'm going to be around more and more as the months go by, but for now we are apart and it sucks for both of us. How can I keep her somewhat entertained? How can I provide some level of attention from such a great distance? Suggestions, thoughts???
3) She says she likes this book called "THE TAKING OF SLEEPING BEAUTY" by Anne Rice. As a teen she read it and she had her first sexual release by doing so. She loves only a few sections of the work, but it's those few passages that really get her off. She won't tell me what in particular she likes about the book, but she says she skips the Male Homosexual scenes. I read the book looking for pointers as to how I can better please her. I've tried to do some of those things, but it's kind of difficult in the context of the pages. My question is, given what you know of this book, what would you say she's into? She gets so embarrassed when I try to talk about it with her. I guess, I'm looking for some sort of profile based on that information.
4) She likes long slow teasing before sex. She says she wants me to bring her to the point of "Frustration". She wants me to make her beg for release. So, my question is given what you know, how can I do this Slow, Teasing in other ways? Are there games we could play? Do you know anyone like this?
I know this is all too long, so I'm going to cut it short. I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts on the subject. She is an amazing girl and I think we have a future together. I just need to understand how to better meet her