Salvat
05-09-2016, 02:53 PM
33/male/master seeks any age/female/slave in any location (serious replies only)
Hello revered GetDare Members,
I am a 33 year young male Dom, looking for a long term relationship with a female submissive/slave to have fun with.
If you think, I forgot something essential in this Thread, please reply and I will provide the Information you seek.
But before you dive in my Likes and Dislikes I have some additional information which I hope you find useful. This post is a bit longer than the normal AD here - but it is for your benefit because I want to give you all the information you will need to know if the play I offer is what you are looking for.
So please read the whole post before you contact me via PM or IM.
If you don’t have the motivation to read this post, chances are you don’t want a long term commitment and therefore you are not the kind of person I’m looking for.
In contrast to many other Domīs here I don't jump on every female just because she is willing or shows her titts.
Introduction
I live in Germany which means:
English is not my native language, so my grammar might be off sometimes. What you see here is what you get in Emails & Chat.
My Timezone is GMT + 1 / UTC + 01:00 - If you are in a different Timezone I can often, but not always, compensate for that - but I will require the same from you to make it work.
A little bit about me personally:
I am a Dominant for over 15 years and therefore I have a lot of experience. That said, I learn new things from every Sub and to 'Play' is different for me with each submissive. That is the main reason why I search here!
In real life I'm a Businessman.
I have my own IT-Company and can Mail or IM whenever I have time for it. So in theory I'm nearly 16 hours a Day available. (perkīs of a Boss )
I enjoy meeting new people and get to know their point of view in life. I love deep conversations about life, science or of course sex in general.
I’m very interested in US/UK TV-Series (I watch lots of them), some online Games and the newest Fantasy/Sci-fi books.
Other people describe me as honest, sensitive, thoughtful, idealistic and proactive.
I choose the people I talk with and trust very carefully and I have a very good sense if someone is honest with me.
Because of that trust is a big thing for me.
Sex is fun but also something on a personal level, that's why this post has so much information about what I search for. If I have the feeling someone is dishonest or not invested in my play, I simply lose interest. I can get sex all the time if i want to, so to have a submissive is not about to jerk off every once in awhile, it is to play with another person, to explore boundaries, learn about you and have a good time.
What kind of Dom am I?
In general I like to play with my submissiveīs mind and mix her and mine sexual likes together.
So in the beginning I like to get to know you, not only in a sexual way, but also on a personal level. I like to know how you think, what you like and also what peeks your interest.
As mentioned before, the personal feeling and well being is very important to me and I like to talk with you on a daily basis (if possible). This has not to be only about sex, tasks or punishments, but also about life and things that are happening in your or my world.
So if you search someone who can also be your friend - I’m the right choice.
I have a wide range of interestīs and a genuine interest to get to know other people.
It might be obvious by now but I like to nurture and educate my submissive in sexual and non-sexual topics, depending on interestīs of her and my own needs for play.
I also like to be an understanding Master that gives you the opportunity to make things right when you did break a rule. - That said, I have also the ability to get very strict and even cruel if the situation or you demands it.
My Tasks and Rules are well thought-out and I don't jeopardize your obligations to your Job/School, Friends or Family. If I know you have an important appointment, I have no problem with giving you a break, or cheer you up to support you.
On the other hand, if you had time to do your chores and you simply didn't care to do them, I can get disappointed fast and don't skimp with punishments.
In the end though, I have no desire to see you fail in life or to break you.
In fact I like to push my sub to her limits so she can expand her horizon and learn.
Likes & Dislikes
If you are interested until now it is a good idea to check my likes and dislikes
My Likes are:
Humiliation (verbal, in Mindplay & with taskīs)
Bladder & pee control (No drinking, but daily training and rules for it)
Orgasm control/denial
to set Rules or give Taskīs
ruined orgasms
Some pain
These are my Likes.
You don’t have to be experienced in them, itīs enough if you are ready to try some things in these areas. So they shouldn't be a problem for you! - I also like many other things too. If you are not sure, you are welcome to ask me.
My Dislikes/Limits are:
Blood
Family
Bestiality
Illegal
Scat
Lack of commitment
This is non-negotiable!
What kind of submissive I'm searching for?
I’m searching for a woman that has fun with BDSM and with being a submissive (or at least think she can if you are totally new to this).
You have to be someone who likes to please a man in every way he likes - this means sexual and also non-sexual.
You have to be willing to give up certain rights like the right to have orgasms without permission or the right to use the toys you like.
I don’t need you to memorize 60-100 rules for me - I find around 10 rules totally sufficient as long as you keep them in mind and follow their spirit all the time. The act of following my rules and to be invested in pleasing me is much more worth to me than a complete rulebook of arbitrary rules with no purpose.
You should also be interested and excited about the power play between men & woman. I’m no macho in my real life and I never lose respect for a submissive, but “in play” we have our own set of rules and there will be no equality between us.
One of my likes is also humiliation, this can manifest in things you have to think about or in different tasks like showing yourself in different positions.
As for Tasks I’m very demanding and set the bar quite high. This means I give you a lot of help if you have problems but I make you aware that you have to get to certain standards.
In general you shouldn’t give up when you didn’t complete a task to my liking. I’m patient and give you the time you need, but you have to be willing to try again and again if needed.
I don't like or need a mindless slave. You can and should have your own thoughts and feelings. I want your feedback, if something is particularly hard or exciting for you, so I know how you are doing mentally and how much you can endure.
In the end you have to be ok with the fact that I’m not there to do only things that are convenient for you - in fact many of my rules or tasks will make your life harder (in a sexy way). I expect from you, that you do everything in your power to follow your rules and to please me with your doing.
Things I will demand of you are:
to check in with me at least once a day per email or IM
to be open and absolutely honest about yourself and your thinking
to test new things that are not in your limits at least once
to act intelligent with your given rules and taskīs
to be able to get privacy for tasks at least once a day
to have (or create) at least one IM account where we can chat & talk
In return I promise you not only a wonderful time exploring your submissive side but also some incredible experiences, some knowledge and much fun.
What I'm NOT searching for:
I have no interest in you if you want only to play for one evening or a weekend!
I also have no interest in you if you don’t have fun with being a submissive or if you think rules are more like guidelines you don’t have to follow.
If your goal is to be completely anonymous I’m also not the right Dom for you because I like to get to know my submissive and I like to care for her at least in an emotional/mental way.
How I Play?
One of the first Questions I get is “how I like to play” and I think in a sense the people that ask me that want to know what I do every single time.
There is no definite answer to this Question, because the dynamic with each submissive are completely different and so are likes and dislikes. I play with another human being and I never had a play session that was exactly the same in my entire life.
In my opinion every submissive is unique and therefore the play is different each time.
But, I have a post I want to share at this point from a former sub and (now) good friend, I think you can get an insight I can't really bring in to this ad myself:
Post about my Play (http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showpost.php?p=994095&postcount=3)
As you may have read, I do like to push my sub to her mental and physical limits if i can. I like to play with the Mind, if the Sub is up for it this can go pretty deep and dark.
On the other side I like light or good conversation flavored with some light play. This can end up in us discussing a certain topic and parallel playing with some taskīs at the same time.
I teach my sub also how she has to behave and how she should revere me in general. - This might be problematic for super feminist types, because I like to play with the dynamic between men and woman and I don’t give diplomatic answers in that context.
Education and self growth are also part of my play - it is sad for me how little people sometimes know about sex, their own body or how to please. This is not to belittle you, and I don’t laugh about you. But it is something that we will fix by teaching and training you.
Points of View
So there are some general Questions I like to tackle right on and I also think this will give you some Insight how I am :)
I’m a Beginner - is that a Problem for you?
Absolute not - the Problem beginner have is that they think they are too frustrating and no one wants to have someone who needs to learn over time.
I’m the kind of Dom that takes time for every Sub regardless of her experience - so you don’t have to worry about being new to this. Also I like to teach so you can be sure this will not be uninteresting for me.
I had the pleasure to train a couple of beginners and even virgins and we had a lot of fun together :)
Some parts sound very normal - others very strange… Can I talk to you normally?
Yes absolutely - it's amazing how many people asked me this.
I can be just a good friend to talk to. - There is nothing wrong with that and you will see this is nothing problematic.
Do I need Toys for you?
If you have some Toys thatīs great. If you don't - that's okay too!
Every household has enough to get you off for 200 different times. And there is always Amazon where you can buy a lot of stuff that can be used.
Do you prefer a Messenger/IM?
Yes - I prefer Hangouts because itīs Kik on steroids.
Everyone uses KIK because it's anonymous - Hangouts uses a GMail account which you can create under false name and with false data without any problems.
Hangout offers a Chat on every device and you get a lot of functionality over the email address itself you might find useful for reports and other stuff. Oh and it's 100% encrypted which means that nobody can read what you wrote or read.
What about other IMīs/Kik/Internet:
I can be in kik or another phone IM or eMail for the start.
If you have a problem with Hangout you can tell me and we can try to find another solution over email or something. But it will not be as comfortable as Hangouts and therefore you might get frustrated. I need a messenger I can use across multiple Devices to answer often.
What kind of personal information do you want?
So in general I don’t need much - I like to know a name I can call you by. If that's your first name or a chosen name is up to you. I also like to know where you live (Country and general Area, so something like USA/NY or England/London.
I like to know your living conditions and what you do job wise. If you wish you can generalise everything as long as it is the truth. So if you tell me you live in a City in a flat you share with your female best friend and work at a hospital as staff I’m okay with that.
Do I have to Verify who I am?
Sadly it is necessary to check if you are “real”. I demand it before we get serious and start to play - so if you want to get to know me first so you can establish a bit of trust I’m all up for that. Just don’t expect me to do anything with you or tell you details about my sexual desires.
I do this check via Photo or Voice (or both) - you don’t have to be naked or any other things that are too explicit and you can choose for yourself what kind of medium you want to use (But I reserve the right to demand both if i have doubts).
I don’t like the fact I have to do this but I had a lot of People try to give me false information how they look or what their gender is and I don’t want to invest any time into these jokers. I totally understand that you might not look like a perfect model.
Is look for you important?
No it is not! - shocking, I know! :)
I don’t search for a supermodel to dominate - yes of course I find women pleasing if they look like the latest cover from a nude magazine… But I also like women who are natural, who don’t look like the perfect Photoshop image and who have some flaws. In my opinion that's nothing to be ashamed of and I never rejected a submissive because of her looks in my entire life (online or offline)
Do you insist on Voice Calls?
This is totally optional for me and I don’t expect people to jump for it but I like to hear my sub and sometimes even give Tasks or rules via Voice. I’m aware this is not easy for most people but more easy then sending pictures or a video. I give you the time you need to try it out, but I like to have the option and to demand proof in this way if everything else is not available.
Do you insist on Pictures/Webcam:
Yeah I like pictures, but if I want to see naked women doing Kinky stuff I get that on tumblr in High Definition - I don't need a submissive for that!
That said, for me pictures are an control element. I like to humiliate with them (No Body Shaming!) and to make play more safe and also exciting for you.
I use Pictures as proof or to check if you do things right and also to make some of the play more real in your mindset.
I never demand your face in explicit pictures and I never share them anywhere or with another person without permission.
So pictures shouldn't be a dealbreaker for you, I have no problem to wait with them for a short time, but I see them as mandatory and you should be okay with it.
Webcam on the other hand is totally optional and something you don’t have to do if you don’t want to. It can be fun and a lot of my subīs prefered it, but it’s not for everybody.
What are your thoughts on Questions & Honesty?
For some people questions are problematic and even insulting. - For me questions are important, itīs a philosophy in my life.
I ask demanding questions over time, if someone or something is interesting.
So here are some ground rules on that:
If you are uncomfortable with a question, I have no problem if you say "... this is none of your business..." and I will never ask again if you say so.
On the other hand: IF you answer a question, I want it to be the truth! No lies and no deception - simply the truth.
I'm very open myself and I will obey by the same rule. Please understand that if i believe you are dishonest I will stop playing with you or
How do you think about other Dom's/Subīs & Sex:
I do not care if you have contact to other Domīs or Subīs as long as our private stuff remains private and it didn't influence our Play. So don't share details like Rules or Tasks and don't disregard your Rules because of someone else and it is fine with me.
You can have Sex or even sessions with other Domīs/Friends - I'm not a green eyed monster. But I expect you to tell me before and ask for my permission. I will give it as long as you earned it. - The Orgasm control is here for me the important factor, not that you have Sex with someone else.
If you do something without permission or without even asking, it can be a deal breaker. Not because you have done it, but because you didn't commit to your rules and to me.
You wrote a lot of times something is optional - is it really or will you just demand it later?
So if you read something is optional (like Voice or Webcam) then it is really optional!
I can play with you over years and don’t do that with you at all. But if I feel something could be a really good thing I will try it with you at a later point in time if you are up for it.
So yes I might try some stuff with you later but if it is a limit or you don’t like it at all we don’t have to do it. - I had Submissives only via email.
How Fair are you?
Fairness in my view is, that you have a real chance.
So if I give you a task and say: "If you can do xxx, you can get yyy as reward" there is a real chance you can complete the Task. It might be hard, or really difficult but it will be possible and if you complete it you get your reward. I don't go back on my word (as long as you don't go back on yourīs)
How do you handle time difference or Availability?
So if you are from another time zone (which is very likely) I will have a decent amount of possibilities to compensate for that in going later to bed or chatting/playing when I work. That said I can’t do that all the time and every night so you have to compensate on your side as well or must be okay with completing tasks I send via eMail.
As for Availability - I’m reachable a lot but I can’t always play or take 6 hours every day to play. I have work to do, I have a life outside of our chat and I need to maintain that.
But in general I will have time to chat over the day and between 1-3 hours a day to play.
I really like what I read here… how can I impress you with my Answer?
So there are a couple of things you can do to show me that you are really interested.
Everything I state here is totally optional!
If you are very brave:
Let us do our first contact via voice call.
If you are very kinky:
Show me a porn picture you like and tell me what you like about it. (The picture can be from tumblr or any other source)
If you are very dedicated:
Tell me something humiliating you would do for me in detail and why it would be so humiliating.
Application and Contact
If you read this and think "Hey that sounds like someone interesting" then please send me a PM.
Don't forget to include some personal details and your email address.
If you want, you can also send me your viewpoints on my likes and this post. But I don't expect a novel.
I will answer every PM as long as an Email Address and some personal information is in it and after that, we will see how it goes...
I thank you very much for your time and I appreciate any feedback and/or pushes to the Thread.
If you don't search for a Dom but want to connect because you find this Post interesting, please PM me or write a reply. As I said before: I like to meet new people
Hello revered GetDare Members,
I am a 33 year young male Dom, looking for a long term relationship with a female submissive/slave to have fun with.
If you think, I forgot something essential in this Thread, please reply and I will provide the Information you seek.
But before you dive in my Likes and Dislikes I have some additional information which I hope you find useful. This post is a bit longer than the normal AD here - but it is for your benefit because I want to give you all the information you will need to know if the play I offer is what you are looking for.
So please read the whole post before you contact me via PM or IM.
If you don’t have the motivation to read this post, chances are you don’t want a long term commitment and therefore you are not the kind of person I’m looking for.
In contrast to many other Domīs here I don't jump on every female just because she is willing or shows her titts.
Introduction
I live in Germany which means:
English is not my native language, so my grammar might be off sometimes. What you see here is what you get in Emails & Chat.
My Timezone is GMT + 1 / UTC + 01:00 - If you are in a different Timezone I can often, but not always, compensate for that - but I will require the same from you to make it work.
A little bit about me personally:
I am a Dominant for over 15 years and therefore I have a lot of experience. That said, I learn new things from every Sub and to 'Play' is different for me with each submissive. That is the main reason why I search here!
In real life I'm a Businessman.
I have my own IT-Company and can Mail or IM whenever I have time for it. So in theory I'm nearly 16 hours a Day available. (perkīs of a Boss )
I enjoy meeting new people and get to know their point of view in life. I love deep conversations about life, science or of course sex in general.
I’m very interested in US/UK TV-Series (I watch lots of them), some online Games and the newest Fantasy/Sci-fi books.
Other people describe me as honest, sensitive, thoughtful, idealistic and proactive.
I choose the people I talk with and trust very carefully and I have a very good sense if someone is honest with me.
Because of that trust is a big thing for me.
Sex is fun but also something on a personal level, that's why this post has so much information about what I search for. If I have the feeling someone is dishonest or not invested in my play, I simply lose interest. I can get sex all the time if i want to, so to have a submissive is not about to jerk off every once in awhile, it is to play with another person, to explore boundaries, learn about you and have a good time.
What kind of Dom am I?
In general I like to play with my submissiveīs mind and mix her and mine sexual likes together.
So in the beginning I like to get to know you, not only in a sexual way, but also on a personal level. I like to know how you think, what you like and also what peeks your interest.
As mentioned before, the personal feeling and well being is very important to me and I like to talk with you on a daily basis (if possible). This has not to be only about sex, tasks or punishments, but also about life and things that are happening in your or my world.
So if you search someone who can also be your friend - I’m the right choice.
I have a wide range of interestīs and a genuine interest to get to know other people.
It might be obvious by now but I like to nurture and educate my submissive in sexual and non-sexual topics, depending on interestīs of her and my own needs for play.
I also like to be an understanding Master that gives you the opportunity to make things right when you did break a rule. - That said, I have also the ability to get very strict and even cruel if the situation or you demands it.
My Tasks and Rules are well thought-out and I don't jeopardize your obligations to your Job/School, Friends or Family. If I know you have an important appointment, I have no problem with giving you a break, or cheer you up to support you.
On the other hand, if you had time to do your chores and you simply didn't care to do them, I can get disappointed fast and don't skimp with punishments.
In the end though, I have no desire to see you fail in life or to break you.
In fact I like to push my sub to her limits so she can expand her horizon and learn.
Likes & Dislikes
If you are interested until now it is a good idea to check my likes and dislikes
My Likes are:
Humiliation (verbal, in Mindplay & with taskīs)
Bladder & pee control (No drinking, but daily training and rules for it)
Orgasm control/denial
to set Rules or give Taskīs
ruined orgasms
Some pain
These are my Likes.
You don’t have to be experienced in them, itīs enough if you are ready to try some things in these areas. So they shouldn't be a problem for you! - I also like many other things too. If you are not sure, you are welcome to ask me.
My Dislikes/Limits are:
Blood
Family
Bestiality
Illegal
Scat
Lack of commitment
This is non-negotiable!
What kind of submissive I'm searching for?
I’m searching for a woman that has fun with BDSM and with being a submissive (or at least think she can if you are totally new to this).
You have to be someone who likes to please a man in every way he likes - this means sexual and also non-sexual.
You have to be willing to give up certain rights like the right to have orgasms without permission or the right to use the toys you like.
I don’t need you to memorize 60-100 rules for me - I find around 10 rules totally sufficient as long as you keep them in mind and follow their spirit all the time. The act of following my rules and to be invested in pleasing me is much more worth to me than a complete rulebook of arbitrary rules with no purpose.
You should also be interested and excited about the power play between men & woman. I’m no macho in my real life and I never lose respect for a submissive, but “in play” we have our own set of rules and there will be no equality between us.
One of my likes is also humiliation, this can manifest in things you have to think about or in different tasks like showing yourself in different positions.
As for Tasks I’m very demanding and set the bar quite high. This means I give you a lot of help if you have problems but I make you aware that you have to get to certain standards.
In general you shouldn’t give up when you didn’t complete a task to my liking. I’m patient and give you the time you need, but you have to be willing to try again and again if needed.
I don't like or need a mindless slave. You can and should have your own thoughts and feelings. I want your feedback, if something is particularly hard or exciting for you, so I know how you are doing mentally and how much you can endure.
In the end you have to be ok with the fact that I’m not there to do only things that are convenient for you - in fact many of my rules or tasks will make your life harder (in a sexy way). I expect from you, that you do everything in your power to follow your rules and to please me with your doing.
Things I will demand of you are:
to check in with me at least once a day per email or IM
to be open and absolutely honest about yourself and your thinking
to test new things that are not in your limits at least once
to act intelligent with your given rules and taskīs
to be able to get privacy for tasks at least once a day
to have (or create) at least one IM account where we can chat & talk
In return I promise you not only a wonderful time exploring your submissive side but also some incredible experiences, some knowledge and much fun.
What I'm NOT searching for:
I have no interest in you if you want only to play for one evening or a weekend!
I also have no interest in you if you don’t have fun with being a submissive or if you think rules are more like guidelines you don’t have to follow.
If your goal is to be completely anonymous I’m also not the right Dom for you because I like to get to know my submissive and I like to care for her at least in an emotional/mental way.
How I Play?
One of the first Questions I get is “how I like to play” and I think in a sense the people that ask me that want to know what I do every single time.
There is no definite answer to this Question, because the dynamic with each submissive are completely different and so are likes and dislikes. I play with another human being and I never had a play session that was exactly the same in my entire life.
In my opinion every submissive is unique and therefore the play is different each time.
But, I have a post I want to share at this point from a former sub and (now) good friend, I think you can get an insight I can't really bring in to this ad myself:
Post about my Play (http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showpost.php?p=994095&postcount=3)
As you may have read, I do like to push my sub to her mental and physical limits if i can. I like to play with the Mind, if the Sub is up for it this can go pretty deep and dark.
On the other side I like light or good conversation flavored with some light play. This can end up in us discussing a certain topic and parallel playing with some taskīs at the same time.
I teach my sub also how she has to behave and how she should revere me in general. - This might be problematic for super feminist types, because I like to play with the dynamic between men and woman and I don’t give diplomatic answers in that context.
Education and self growth are also part of my play - it is sad for me how little people sometimes know about sex, their own body or how to please. This is not to belittle you, and I don’t laugh about you. But it is something that we will fix by teaching and training you.
Points of View
So there are some general Questions I like to tackle right on and I also think this will give you some Insight how I am :)
I’m a Beginner - is that a Problem for you?
Absolute not - the Problem beginner have is that they think they are too frustrating and no one wants to have someone who needs to learn over time.
I’m the kind of Dom that takes time for every Sub regardless of her experience - so you don’t have to worry about being new to this. Also I like to teach so you can be sure this will not be uninteresting for me.
I had the pleasure to train a couple of beginners and even virgins and we had a lot of fun together :)
Some parts sound very normal - others very strange… Can I talk to you normally?
Yes absolutely - it's amazing how many people asked me this.
I can be just a good friend to talk to. - There is nothing wrong with that and you will see this is nothing problematic.
Do I need Toys for you?
If you have some Toys thatīs great. If you don't - that's okay too!
Every household has enough to get you off for 200 different times. And there is always Amazon where you can buy a lot of stuff that can be used.
Do you prefer a Messenger/IM?
Yes - I prefer Hangouts because itīs Kik on steroids.
Everyone uses KIK because it's anonymous - Hangouts uses a GMail account which you can create under false name and with false data without any problems.
Hangout offers a Chat on every device and you get a lot of functionality over the email address itself you might find useful for reports and other stuff. Oh and it's 100% encrypted which means that nobody can read what you wrote or read.
What about other IMīs/Kik/Internet:
I can be in kik or another phone IM or eMail for the start.
If you have a problem with Hangout you can tell me and we can try to find another solution over email or something. But it will not be as comfortable as Hangouts and therefore you might get frustrated. I need a messenger I can use across multiple Devices to answer often.
What kind of personal information do you want?
So in general I don’t need much - I like to know a name I can call you by. If that's your first name or a chosen name is up to you. I also like to know where you live (Country and general Area, so something like USA/NY or England/London.
I like to know your living conditions and what you do job wise. If you wish you can generalise everything as long as it is the truth. So if you tell me you live in a City in a flat you share with your female best friend and work at a hospital as staff I’m okay with that.
Do I have to Verify who I am?
Sadly it is necessary to check if you are “real”. I demand it before we get serious and start to play - so if you want to get to know me first so you can establish a bit of trust I’m all up for that. Just don’t expect me to do anything with you or tell you details about my sexual desires.
I do this check via Photo or Voice (or both) - you don’t have to be naked or any other things that are too explicit and you can choose for yourself what kind of medium you want to use (But I reserve the right to demand both if i have doubts).
I don’t like the fact I have to do this but I had a lot of People try to give me false information how they look or what their gender is and I don’t want to invest any time into these jokers. I totally understand that you might not look like a perfect model.
Is look for you important?
No it is not! - shocking, I know! :)
I don’t search for a supermodel to dominate - yes of course I find women pleasing if they look like the latest cover from a nude magazine… But I also like women who are natural, who don’t look like the perfect Photoshop image and who have some flaws. In my opinion that's nothing to be ashamed of and I never rejected a submissive because of her looks in my entire life (online or offline)
Do you insist on Voice Calls?
This is totally optional for me and I don’t expect people to jump for it but I like to hear my sub and sometimes even give Tasks or rules via Voice. I’m aware this is not easy for most people but more easy then sending pictures or a video. I give you the time you need to try it out, but I like to have the option and to demand proof in this way if everything else is not available.
Do you insist on Pictures/Webcam:
Yeah I like pictures, but if I want to see naked women doing Kinky stuff I get that on tumblr in High Definition - I don't need a submissive for that!
That said, for me pictures are an control element. I like to humiliate with them (No Body Shaming!) and to make play more safe and also exciting for you.
I use Pictures as proof or to check if you do things right and also to make some of the play more real in your mindset.
I never demand your face in explicit pictures and I never share them anywhere or with another person without permission.
So pictures shouldn't be a dealbreaker for you, I have no problem to wait with them for a short time, but I see them as mandatory and you should be okay with it.
Webcam on the other hand is totally optional and something you don’t have to do if you don’t want to. It can be fun and a lot of my subīs prefered it, but it’s not for everybody.
What are your thoughts on Questions & Honesty?
For some people questions are problematic and even insulting. - For me questions are important, itīs a philosophy in my life.
I ask demanding questions over time, if someone or something is interesting.
So here are some ground rules on that:
If you are uncomfortable with a question, I have no problem if you say "... this is none of your business..." and I will never ask again if you say so.
On the other hand: IF you answer a question, I want it to be the truth! No lies and no deception - simply the truth.
I'm very open myself and I will obey by the same rule. Please understand that if i believe you are dishonest I will stop playing with you or
How do you think about other Dom's/Subīs & Sex:
I do not care if you have contact to other Domīs or Subīs as long as our private stuff remains private and it didn't influence our Play. So don't share details like Rules or Tasks and don't disregard your Rules because of someone else and it is fine with me.
You can have Sex or even sessions with other Domīs/Friends - I'm not a green eyed monster. But I expect you to tell me before and ask for my permission. I will give it as long as you earned it. - The Orgasm control is here for me the important factor, not that you have Sex with someone else.
If you do something without permission or without even asking, it can be a deal breaker. Not because you have done it, but because you didn't commit to your rules and to me.
You wrote a lot of times something is optional - is it really or will you just demand it later?
So if you read something is optional (like Voice or Webcam) then it is really optional!
I can play with you over years and don’t do that with you at all. But if I feel something could be a really good thing I will try it with you at a later point in time if you are up for it.
So yes I might try some stuff with you later but if it is a limit or you don’t like it at all we don’t have to do it. - I had Submissives only via email.
How Fair are you?
Fairness in my view is, that you have a real chance.
So if I give you a task and say: "If you can do xxx, you can get yyy as reward" there is a real chance you can complete the Task. It might be hard, or really difficult but it will be possible and if you complete it you get your reward. I don't go back on my word (as long as you don't go back on yourīs)
How do you handle time difference or Availability?
So if you are from another time zone (which is very likely) I will have a decent amount of possibilities to compensate for that in going later to bed or chatting/playing when I work. That said I can’t do that all the time and every night so you have to compensate on your side as well or must be okay with completing tasks I send via eMail.
As for Availability - I’m reachable a lot but I can’t always play or take 6 hours every day to play. I have work to do, I have a life outside of our chat and I need to maintain that.
But in general I will have time to chat over the day and between 1-3 hours a day to play.
I really like what I read here… how can I impress you with my Answer?
So there are a couple of things you can do to show me that you are really interested.
Everything I state here is totally optional!
If you are very brave:
Let us do our first contact via voice call.
If you are very kinky:
Show me a porn picture you like and tell me what you like about it. (The picture can be from tumblr or any other source)
If you are very dedicated:
Tell me something humiliating you would do for me in detail and why it would be so humiliating.
Application and Contact
If you read this and think "Hey that sounds like someone interesting" then please send me a PM.
Don't forget to include some personal details and your email address.
If you want, you can also send me your viewpoints on my likes and this post. But I don't expect a novel.
I will answer every PM as long as an Email Address and some personal information is in it and after that, we will see how it goes...
I thank you very much for your time and I appreciate any feedback and/or pushes to the Thread.
If you don't search for a Dom but want to connect because you find this Post interesting, please PM me or write a reply. As I said before: I like to meet new people