LilAngel
04-27-2009, 11:55 PM
So, having a look at the main s/m area, you can see a lot of people reply with words like 'Mistress', 'Master' or 'Your -insert derogatory term here-'.
In real life, I know a lot of people involved in the BDSM/Fetish community would prefer if these terms would be kept out until the scene/ session already starts. Of course, if you want to get involved in BDSM as a lifestyle, it would be a similar thing. (Before a dominant accepts your submission)
As a lifestyle, some couples chooses to not use any honorific at all, or some chooses to only use it when 'playing'. Or some people just have really weird names. The most common rule however, is that the dominant's given name can never be used, even in public.
Also, I know that some submissives thinks it is less submissive if you are not addressing the person 'appropriately', however, I think that most dominants would be fine (in the beginning) with words like "Ms/Mrs/Mr' with the appropriate surname honorific, or 'Sir/ Madam/ Lady'.
Your opinions?
In real life, I know a lot of people involved in the BDSM/Fetish community would prefer if these terms would be kept out until the scene/ session already starts. Of course, if you want to get involved in BDSM as a lifestyle, it would be a similar thing. (Before a dominant accepts your submission)
As a lifestyle, some couples chooses to not use any honorific at all, or some chooses to only use it when 'playing'. Or some people just have really weird names. The most common rule however, is that the dominant's given name can never be used, even in public.
Also, I know that some submissives thinks it is less submissive if you are not addressing the person 'appropriately', however, I think that most dominants would be fine (in the beginning) with words like "Ms/Mrs/Mr' with the appropriate surname honorific, or 'Sir/ Madam/ Lady'.
Your opinions?