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Collared_Slave
11-18-2008, 03:28 PM
Sorry "bit" of a rant to start off with:

I am getting quite annoyed at the amount of people thinking: "They're a slave, so they will do anything I say."

I know there are certain people who prefer doing stuff for anyone and everyone who we shall classify for the time being as "Cam slaves" and the other slaves who will serve their Master/Mistress/Owner as "Owner slaves".

Cam Slaves, of course based on our previous classification, want to do tasks set to them and do it just for a session which is fine with those people, but what annoys me is that there is something is some peoples minds saying a slave and a Cam Slave are the same thing.

I for one, cannot just serve anyone. I need to respect them and want to follow their instructions.

I dont respect a person that just pops up and goes: "Asl? Limits? Ok, strip down and turn your cam on."

Im sorry, but why should I?

If they talked to me and had an interest in me I would be more open to their will.

Is anyone else in this sort of mind set or am I just stuck up?
Also if i am not the only one, what do you think might help solve the problem before language starts to become a bit more colourful?

rpUral
11-19-2008, 06:15 AM
I agree. You need some trust and knowledge shared before you jump into tasks. You need to know something about the person; what they like and don't like. What interests them, what embarasses them... You need to have an idea of what the person is like, so that you can be creative and give them a task that will meet their physical and mental needs at that moment.

And no: Just because someone is submissive, doesn't mean that they then have to be submissive to everyone they meet.

SubMissChievous
11-19-2008, 06:57 AM
Is anyone else in this sort of mind set or am I just stuck up?
Also if i am not the only one, what do you think might help solve the problem before language starts to become a bit more colourful?

Don't worry, CS, you're definitely not stuck up :)

I'm not too sure if there's any way to solve the problem as far as these type of people are concerned... I'd say the less talk with them the better.

To be honest, I have never really considered anyone who "introduce" themselves this way to be really interested in D/s at all. They, for most of them, are only looking for a porn show and then they assume that someone who's submissive will gladly give it to them without any question... And sadly, a lot of these people also assume that being polite & courteous is optional when they address another person on the internet.

So I think the only way to really solve this is just to say "no, thanks" or "sorry, you're not meeting the required standards to be my Dom" and move on. Otherwise, at least from my experience, chances are quite high that they won't really understand or even reply with something as silly as "you're not really a sub..."

So I think the best thing to do is to ignore them after letting them know that's not what you're looking for is probably the best solution :)

Bandit|Queen
11-19-2008, 06:59 AM
No you don't need to be submissive to everyone. if they want to act pompuss ignore it.

By the same token a lot of subs go around acting like they are above everyone else in some way. As though they are an elite "true" submissive or somehting. Kneeling at anyone and everyones feet just cos you are a submissive does not make you "true" or whatever you want to call it.

Sometimes I feel the fault lies with submissives who have this kind of attitude. many do, young and old. The people I know who are the most dedicated to the life style are very quiet in their submission or domination. They don't need to shout it, they just are.

Maybe submissives attitudes need to change before others will.

BettyBoop
11-19-2008, 10:11 AM
I agree with you completely. I'm not even a slave and people will come to me saying 'i wanna to be ur master, u hav cam?' its's annoying and rude.

pillowman
11-19-2008, 11:18 AM
I have to apologise in that case because it means that I am one of the people that as a submissive will just strip down and turn the cam on. I think it might be because people come on this site when they are horny and so are already standing to attention... so to speak. Unfortunatley it has a knock on effect so for my part in this I must apologise.

Bandit|Queen
11-19-2008, 11:40 AM
I have to apologise in that case because it means that I am one of the people that as a submissive will just strip down and turn the cam on. I think it might be because people come on this site when they are horny and so are already standing to attention... so to speak. Unfortunatley it has a knock on effect so for my part in this I must apologise.


That's being an exhibitionist, nothing wrong with that at all! Just means you aren't a submissive and again there is nothing wrong with that. People use submissive as a pretty blanket turm, again nothing wrong with that everyone sees things differently :)

Exposing yourself to someone on cam can be fun if thats what you like. Part of that can be doing as they say, doesn't really mean you are submitting but hey its what you like!

Night-1991
11-19-2008, 11:41 AM
when you said ( I dont respect a person that just pops up and goes: "Asl? Limits? Ok, strip down and turn your cam on." ) , i agreed 100%

They really should know alot more about you rather than just jump headfirst into it.

Course, i get asked "got cam?, be my slave" in PM's all the time, they really shouldn't do that

SubMissChievous
11-19-2008, 11:50 AM
I have to apologise in that case because it means that I am one of the people that as a submissive will just strip down and turn the cam on. I think it might be because people come on this site when they are horny and so are already standing to attention... so to speak. Unfortunatley it has a knock on effect so for my part in this I must apologise.If that's how you prefer it then I don't think there's anything wrong with that. So no needs to apologize... at least to me :D

I really don't think that people who are rude are being influenced by other people's behavior. Most of them are just rude by nature and, like I posted previously, give themselves the permission to act on the internet in a matter they would probably never act in person. My past personal experiences showed me actually that many of them seemed to be much more influenced by what they had seen in porn and that they tend not to realize the difference between fantasy & reality so they foolishly assume that all subs & slaves are just waiting to be told to get on cam now or to send pics or whatever. It's true that some are really just looking for some kinky fun while some others are looking for more in-depths relationships. I don't think there's one way "better" than the other. It's just 2 different types of needs/preferences.