Too much porn?

[DancingBear]

I know this is probably the wrong place to go, but I just don't feel right about my boyfriend watching porn.
When we first started dating, he didn't come off like that. I used his phone tho and it came up in his history and I just kinda laughed about it. There's nothing wrong with porn.. but now I figure out, he watches it every day multiple times a day, even days where we have had sex. He even subscribes to a porn site and pays for it.
It just makes me feel self conscious.. why does he have to look at those girls and jerk off when he has me? Is this the reason why he never cums inside me when we have sex? He always pulls out and wants me to blow him until he finishes. It doesn't feel right..

and no, I didn't talk to him about it. I asked him if he watched porn and he said he did. I asked him if he touched himself to it and he said "isn't that what the whole point is?" I dunno.. what should I do, if anything?

[subTom]

It sounds like he is probably addicted to it.

If it bothers you, confront him and ask him to stop.

[DancingBear]

I can't do anything because he's going to be mad that I looked at his web history.

[jeff10145]

well idk how to confront him but i can say this i am almost positive that hes not watching it cuz ur not good enough you shouldnt feel self concious about it what so ever almost everyone watchs porn weather they admit it or not but it does sound like hes addicted and the cuming inside you thing may have to do with not wanting to get you pregnant. i hope this helped

[spacegal24]

I'm sorry to say, but that sounds like he has a real problem. Watching porn is one thing, but that's kind of taking it to the extreme. You might want to talk to him about it, even if he gets mad. It sounds like an addiction. There's nothing wrong with you, he's the one with the problem. I'm sorry. :(

[sweetsong]

Sounds like he might be addicted and obviously knows it's wrong or wouldn't be bothered by you looking through his web history.

People only freak about a "privacy invasion" when they think they have something to hide.

[MisterG]

I also don't like to cum inside my GF unless I'm wearing a condom, can't risk the pregancy at this point in my life... Maybe he also has the same problem...

[DancingBear]

Fear of getting pregnant isn't the reason.. we use enough protection to ensure that. But it seems the common answer is that he is addicted.. Is it wrong for me to snoop?

[SubTitled]

I think there's nothing wrong with him. Currently I've made a commitment not to have orgasms unless I get permission,
but normally I'd watch porn everyday and a lot of guys I know do too.
Also when I have sex in the morning I'd might be horny at night and watch porn, so don't take it personal. It really hasn't anything to do with you I'm sure!
Please don't bother him about this, cause you'll make a point of nothing only out of insecurity. No offence btw.

If you don't like the way you're having sex then do tell him that. He'll probably really likes cumming in your mouth and maybe thinks very logical about it cause it's less messy.
But if you want him to cum inside your vagina then tell him that ;)

good luck!

[analholger]

I watch porn, because i am bored too often. Even if i have sex in the morning i get up and watch porn 1 hour later. Anyway i want to reduce it, but it's just... i need something to keep me busy. Probably your bf is in the same situation.

[theone]

It really does sound like he is addicted to porn and has a problem. The thing is porn addictions affect other people who are in relationship and causes real problems in those relationships. Indulgence in porn to that degree is a trap as it will eventually not satisfy and the quest for even harder porn will take over his life. Also porn addiction is about self-gratification real relationships are about pleasing your partner.

[RST]

I'd say watching porn is nothing bad in itself. Like lots of other healthy things, like eating food for instance, it can become an addiction. I wouldn't dare saying when it is or when it isn't one but the only thing that matters is whether it disturbs your love life. I think you have reasonable grounds to think it does and so a confrontation is justifiable. If you feel bad about snooping either don't tell and just tell him your feelings and suspicions or just tell him you did snoop and tell him the reason why you did so.

[Blackjack]

I watch porn, because i am bored too often. Even if i have sex in the morning i get up and watch porn 1 hour later. Anyway i want to reduce it, but it's just... i need something to keep me busy. Probably your bf is in the same situation.

You do know that there are lots of other things on the internet other than porn right? Or there's a whole world out there that can keep you busy off the internet.

And yes, it sounds like your boyfriend is addicted to porn.

[StrawDog]

Addiction is too strong a word to just throw around. There could be a plethora of things involved which are merely speculation unless you talk with him.

It may be better to examine your own reactions and feelings first so that when you are ready to talk you are secure in what you are saying and your position, therefore able to be receptive and disallow things from degenerating into an argument.

[DancingBear]

I guess how I really feel is.. porn itself doesn't bother me. I know that guys watch it and it doesn't really have to do with their relationship but I would feel better about it if he applied it to real life. Like maybe we can explore some aspect of the porn he watches, in the real-life bedroom? I dunno.

But I did step up and Domme him a bit the other day in bed, which he seemed to enjoy, and I checked his history the following night and he hadn't been on any porn sites since then.

[comicslave]

Talk to him about it, tell him you want to explore things, and wish for you two to explore together, and basically say what you said here to him, say you do not mind porn blah blah

[Rigal]

IDK if you've already done this, but one day, look mor closely at his history and see what kind of porn he looks at the most and try to mimic that in bed the best you can. Or ask his he has ever thought about BDSM and see of he is interested. I know it can be very hard to bring that up with someone, (took me nearly a year to bring it up with my last girlfriend) but I would still try to find the right time and way to ask.

[Boxer27]

So what ever happened w/ your bf? I would say it wasn't cool that you were looking though his phone. Once you saw it though, you're better off talking to him about it b/c you won't be able to get over it. Have you tried watching porn w/ him? I think that would prob turn both of you on:)

[JEflutterby]

i agree curiosity is the devil... watch porn with him and you would enjoy it... stop looking for secrets he keeps and enjoy his time while you have it

[God_Of_Masters]

ya...look, u have every right to confront him since his personal stuff includes u and is affecting you. Talk to him. Tell him if you took the porn to the bedroom is he willing to cut down on it ??
Like u said, after the last sex, he hasn't watched porn, meaning u fulfilled some fantasy of his and satisfied him the way he wanted to be, deep within his heart.
Stopping porn will be like ordering him to do something which is going to be really difficult for him, and if he sneaks around, u'll get hurt as well.
Take it slow, one step at a time, u can even suggest watching his favorite genre of porn along with him just to spice things up.
All in all, think about all the things that can happen here forth, good & bad, and be prepared for the consequences accordingly :)