How to spot a fake user

[RiskyFlame]

Always there are a few people who complain about users who pretend to be a girl on getDare. But in a kinky sense, shouldn't boys who get turned on by pretending to be a girl online allowed? You can call it their kink or turn on. Well... regardless of the answer, I figured people should know how to spot a fake user. Therefore, I made a short list of the most frequently used ways to spot a fake user.

Disclaimer: the signs below can only be used on accounts registered as the female gender. Furthermore, don't start (publically) accusing users because these signs are solely meant for you to avoid users of your choice, not to harass them or call them out. This usually doesn't end well for the one who blatantly starts calling people things.

Note: be aware that one sign doesn't make anyone suspicious. Otherwise, anyone can be associated with some of these signs. Even killer signs should be combined with other signs. It's about the combinations of several signs (depending on value) that might make someone suspicious or not. And even if so, chances are they are actually a female rather than what you thought them to be.

• Red signs:
  • Posting a men-only like such as CBT when requesting a dare (happens mostly by accident).
  • Posting pictures of themselves including their face anywhere on getDare (albums/posts/...)
  • The username includes the fore- and surname of the person.
• Signs:
  • Having a girl as their avatar, especially one in which the face of the girl is included.
  • An almost completely filled out profile right after joining.
  • Having multiple threads within a short timespan right after joining (especially to request dares).
  • Having a username with an obvious girls name in it, especially in combination with a number.
  • Describing unrealistic situations. (to debunk: use common sense and logic)
  • Expecting pictures and videos but refusing to prove who they say they are.
  • Prefering Kik, e-mail or any messenger over getDare.
  • Posting a thread titled "something age/f" to ask for dares. (example: Dares requested 19/f)
  • Knowing their way around getDare pretty well even though they are "new".
• Minor signs:
  • Giving excuses about why they can't send any pictures rather than just saying no.
  • Having likes that are usually associated with sissies: diapers, humiliation, girls clothing, etc.
  • Having unusual expensive toys. (e.g. sybian)
  • First threads are an AMA thread and one to request dares.
  • Having made friends within a short timespan right after joining.
  • Being very clear on no pictures and videos (posted separately instead of in their limits).

• Double checks:
  • Use reverse image search on Google to find if the suspicious user is using pictures that already has been posted online once in the past.
  • When a messenger username looks suspicious, do an online check.
    1. Look up the username on Google by placing the username in between quotation marks: "username"
    2. If too many results are coming up on Google, restrict your search by typing the following terms... site: getdare.com "username"
    3. To further restrict the results, use getDare's search engine and place the username in between asterisks: *username*
  • Frequently take a look at the ban list to see what kind of users get banned. Sometimes there are (obvious) patterns.

Disclaimer 2: I use these signs myself and just listed and ranked them for you. When I take a closer look at an account because a combination of the signs above (enough to take a closer look), about 2 out of the 3 times my suspicions were on the spot. Not necessarily only fake profiles but sometimes multiple account users or findoms as well. So these signs may or may not work for you, but they do for me.

[Blue Fox]

Google has a Reverse Image Search feature? Neat! Had no clue. lol

[gamerdom]

Wait wait wait... Hold on a Mod on Getdare actually supporting the idea of pictures? This is blasphemy...

Originally Posted by Ze'Rehan

Google has a Reverse Image Search feature? Neat! Had no clue. lol

Its not actually a reverse image search more an image search in general, but yes there is an image search on Google.

[TheoDares]

Nice guide, very centered towards Males pretending to be girls. Could a guide to Underaged users be next? I mean, there's several huge signs etc...

... Asking for dares to do at school
... Frequent SPAG mistakes etc

[Blue Fox]

What's SPAG? Never heard this term before. O.o I want to say "Spelling, Punctuation, and Grammar" but that isn't likely as I see that as an issue amongst way too many adults as well.

[TheoDares]

You are correct. Spelling, Punctuation and Grammar. While I agree that most adults struggle with this, (which is why I tend to go into challenges with people who can spell), it is usually a give away that they're young - not always I know.

[mildura man]

Originally Posted by TheoDares

Nice guide, very centered towards Males pretending to be girls. Could a guide to Underaged users be next? I mean, there's several huge signs etc...

... Asking for dares to do at school
... Frequent SPAG mistakes etc

I agree there should be a underage one done.

[Jah Brother]

Originally Posted by RiskyFlame

[*]Prefering Kik, e-mail or any messenger over getDare.

Doesn't everyone if you really want to chat?

[RiskyFlame]

Originally Posted by Jah Brother

Doesn't everyone if you really want to chat?

I might not have phrased the flag so well. What I meant is a user who posts that you should only contact them through something other than getDare. Fake users seem to do this because they don't want to bother creating a new messenger account when caught each time or they want to keep the old contacts and conversations.

But you are right. Yes, you move to something easier than private messages when you want live conversations. And so quite a few users post this kind of contact redirections right from the start. Nonetheless, that flag contributes to the profile of a fake user. Besides, none of the flags should be taken and used individually.

[Rabecca]

While for quite obvious reasons I don't agree with 'every' one of these flags i do think that this is a very helpful post for people who may want to avoid such situations I also agree on an underage one to be made, i don't want to help any kid break the rules here after all

[Butterfly]

Although I agree with a few of these points, I think a lot of these points either point at the REAL girls, or at users who may have created a new account for other legitimate reasons.

I think the risk here is that the amount of REAL girls is proportionally small on getDare to begin with, and when people are trying to "find the fake users" the they are going to start accusing the real females of being fakes right from the first message, and I think that is a problem.

I also don't think that just because somebody has created a new account, it makes them a liar, cheat, or a "fake user". Even I have created a new account and started over.

*Posting pictures of themselves including their face anywhere on getDare (albums/posts/...) - Although this is not something that isn't super common, I find that it can also be an indication of somebody being new and naive and not realizing this is a bad idea.
*Having a girl as their avatar, especially one in which the face of the girl is included. Sissy's, Females, Transgender users, as well as men who like females may choose to use an avatar that includes a girl.
*An almost completely filled out profile right after joining. This could be due to a couple things. One is that they may have been a member previously and are starting over, they may come from sites such as fetlife where they have learned that it is a good idea to fill out their profile, or maybe they know somebody else on getDare (or read some information before joining) and have been told that it is a good idea. They may also have lurked for months or years before joining.
*Having multiple threads within a short timespan right after joining (especially to request dares).Again, these people may have just been lurking for a long time and decided they want to jump in and participate and therefore created an account.
*Having a username with an obvious girls name in it, especially in combination with a number. Again, transgender, sissy's or actual females may also have these names.
*Prefering Kik, e-mail or any messenger over getDare. This is very common between a lot of users as the chat room and private message function is not great on mobile
*Knowing their way around getDare pretty well even though they are "new".Same logic as above.
*Having likes that are usually associated with sissies: diapers, humiliation, girls clothing, etc. A lot of people legitimately like these things.
*First threads are an AMA thread and one to request dares. Same logic as above.
*Having made friends within a short timespan right after joining. Same logic as above
*Being very clear on no pictures and videos (posted separately instead of in their limits). There are a LOT of real females and other users who will not do photos. Sometimes having it listed in your limits is not enough, as a lot of people ask for these things within a few messages.
Including this separately in a blog, or a signature is not uncommon.


I just caution people to take these flags under serious consideration before using them to act out against somebody.

Do protect yourself while online, but be careful not to be so jaded that you miss on opportunities to meet new people because you are accusing them of being fake before getting to know them.

[amethyst353]

Originally Posted by RiskyFlame

[*]Red flags:

• Having a username with an obvious girls name in it, especially in combination with a number.

I feel targeted .

[KinkyMelanie]

Your list of flags - no matter how useful they are actually (I think they aren't) - is also a list of things to watch out for if somebody wants to pretend to be woman. If you state that avatar pictures of women should raise a flag then they will change their avatars to photos of cute kittens. You get the idea...

I don't care what gender a person is, I'm here for fun, sharing erotic thoughts and to get inspired. This is not primarily a dating website, is it? There are communities with real-life verification done by volunteers who meet the users face-to-face, if you want to have that. I know a BDSM community where this works great (not English speaking, though).

[RiskyFlame]

Originally Posted by KinkyMelanie

Your list of flags - no matter how useful they are actually (I think they aren't) - is also a list of things to watch out for if somebody wants to pretend to be woman. If you state that avatar pictures of women should raise a flag then they will change their avatars to photos of cute kittens. You get the idea...

I don't care what gender a person is, I'm here for fun, sharing erotic thoughts and to get inspired. This is not primarily a dating website, is it? There are communities with real-life verification done by volunteers who meet the users face-to-face, if you want to have that. I know a BDSM community where this works great (not English speaking, though).

I had the idea to post this for months now, probably since the start of this year. The only reason why I waited so long with posting this is that, as you said, those targetted by these flags can read them too and know how to avoid getting flagged. But I don't think that many of them will read this thread or care about it and so I took the chances. And don't mistake my opinion with the things that I post for others because I enjoy playing with either gender. It's just that some people don't and I post it for them.

And some people are interested in such a list as this one targetted at underage users. The reason why I may not post this is the same reason as why I waited with this thread for such a long time. Paedophiles and people who solicit minors to play with underage users are easier to spot the minors, which I don't want to happen.

[Doux et vivant]

I don't agree with all of what you are saying but I can see why you say it and think that this can be useful if you are perhaps thinking of doing anything commitment based with someone, and you want to know who you are playing with.

Thank you for posting your thoughts on this Risky!