Misleading members

blasie2 · 10-29-2017, 06:23 AM

I have recently come across a member with a 20-30s profile pic but upon talking to them they are in reality 50 is this something I should expect I want to have fun with people my own age not those who are nearly 3x my age

Chephren · 10-29-2017, 06:32 AM

You are moving in the internet. For all you know I could be a very clever dog typing and answering you...

Butterfly · 10-29-2017, 09:51 AM

People can be whoever they want to be on the internet. There are always going to be people who lie about their age, gender, weight, hair color, job, etc.

50 percent of the people around here who say they are 18 are probably underage.

That is why it is important to go slow, get to know people before you trust them and be aware of the risks before doing anything you may regret.

Masterwants · 10-30-2017, 02:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Chephren

You are moving in the internet. For all you know I could be a very clever dog typing and answering you...

You'll be able to tell when it's my dog typing, the lack of typos give it away!

Runesmith · 11-01-2017, 12:55 AM

Many people "pad up their resumé" on the internet. Reading my posts, you might think I am a handsome, debonair and devilishly clever spy/international man of mystery, who drives a wickedly powerful 2017 Aston Martin DB9. But in real life, I only drive a DB7.

MiStraLan · 11-01-2017, 02:09 AM

Says the guy who keeps claiming here that he's up for (nearly) all dares and challenges, but hasn't reacted a single time I tried to contact him via kik, not even to say he isn't interested after all.

Runesmith · 11-01-2017, 03:58 AM

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Originally Posted by MiStraLan

Says the guy who keeps claiming here that he's up for (nearly) all dares and challenges, but hasn't reacted a single time I tried to contact him via kik, not even to say he isn't interested after all.

Have you considered the possibility that the threadstarter may simply not be Interested in you? Although he states that he "up for nearly anything", that doesn't imply that he plays with everyone - in fact, his thread implies just the opposite, that he has very strong selective preferences.

Basic (unwritten) rules of social interaction:
- just because someone is friends with everyone, it doesn't mean they will be friends with you
- just because someone sleeps with everyone, it doesn't mean they will sleep with you
- just because someone is a sub, it doesn't mean they will submit to you
- just because someone is a Dom, it doesn't mean they will want to dominate you
- Just because someone is a prolific dare taker, it doesn't mean they will accept dares from you
- Just because someone is a prolific dare giver, it doesn't mean they will give you dares.
- et cetera, ad infinitum, ad nauseum

Everything is personal. So establish a personal relationship first before jumping off the deep end.

SeaFlower · 11-01-2017, 04:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Runesmith

Many people "pad up their resumé" on the internet. Reading my posts, you might think I am a handsome, debonair and devilishly clever spy/international man of mystery, who drives a wickedly powerful 2017 Aston Martin DB9. But in real life, I only drive a DB7.

And that was the misleading part here. I'd bet you DO have the DB9

RiskyFlame · 11-01-2017, 05:37 AM

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Originally Posted by blasie2

I have recently come across a member with a 20-30s profile pic but upon talking to them they are in reality 50 is this something I should expect I want to have fun with people my own age not those who are nearly 3x my age

So if a user has set its profile picture to a naughty dog, do you expect the user to be a dog as well?

Runesmith · 11-01-2017, 05:42 AM

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Originally Posted by RiskyFlame

So if a user has set its profile picture to a naughty dog, do you expect the user to be a dog as well?

But... but... SeaFlower is a flower, right? I mean, she has to be. She won't post a pic of a flower to mislead us, right?

As far as my pic is concerned, it IS a bit misleading. In the years since I uploaded it, my chest hair has grown.

Runesmith · 11-01-2017, 05:45 AM

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Originally Posted by SeaFlower

And that was the misleading part here. I'd bet you DO have the DB9

Fiendishly clever for a flower, aren't you? I am beginning to wonder whether you are a KGB plant.

Now, although I was defending the threadstarter's right to selective preferences, I do agree that the premise of this thread is silly. 98.3% of photos in advertisements are misleading. 99.2% of photos on dating sites are misleading. 83.6% of all photos on instagram are doctored/filtered - the rest are disgusting. 100% of the things that Trump says are misleading.

Since the dawn of civilization the principle of caveat emptor has rules over practically every social interaction. It's even more applicable in the internet age.

Edgeandenial · 11-01-2017, 06:57 AM

It's internet ...most of the profiles are misleading here.
Only way you can be sure is by getting to mow them better as a person before jumping into doing tasks or play and other stuff

sweetie_sub1983 · 11-01-2017, 07:32 AM

I love the playful way this thread has gone.

Runesmith, you are now a legend...as long as the KGB doesn't figure out if it's really a DB9 or DB7

Like Edgeandenial says, you really have to spend some time getting to know the people you chat with as it does seem that a lot of the profiles are misleading. I don't know about most, but certainly a lot.

kurious kat · 11-02-2017, 08:14 AM

Runesmith does that to all the threads. It keeps the rest of us from getting catty. ...Most of us, anyway.

To answer the original poster, it's healthy to look for dare or chat partners who have things in common with you. Age brackets can definitely be a factor if you're trying to find a romantic partner, depending on what you are looking for and enjoy. But keep in mind that people get a lot of grief over their looks in general, so it's perfectly common for folks to use a younger picture, or a found picture, simply to avoid getting cruel messages from strangers about it. There are a lot of guys here with a girl's avatar, too, because the real or anime person shown is what they're looking for -- or how they see themselves in their heads, rather than the mirror.

Of course, some people will lie about their gender or age outright (see Butterfly's point about minors who claim to be 18, among others), but my experience has been that the majority of interesting users here seem to be honest when it comes up directly. If you find you are enjoying someone's ideas enough for their age or gender to be relevant on an ongoing basis, you can always contact them privately and ask.

10-29-2017, 06:23 AM	#1
blasie2 Member Join Date: Oct 2017 Posts: 52	Misleading members I have recently come across a member with a 20-30s profile pic but upon talking to them they are in reality 50 is this something I should expect I want to have fun with people my own age not those who are nearly 3x my age __________________ 21 m Sub/switch Loves: cbt, Bondage, Hookups Likes: Anything not in limits Limits : no Scat, Blood, perm Pm me here or on kik I have to do any faproulette you want due to losing a dare. kik : rhaegar223 http://bdsmtest.org/r/3JEPRdjv

10-29-2017, 06:32 AM	#2
Chephren Truth or Dare Junkie Join Date: Jan 2015 Posts: 5,841 Blog Entries: 30	You are moving in the internet. For all you know I could be a very clever dog typing and answering you... __________________ male, 37, switch, bisexual likes, dislikes, limits/ toys PM - Dares My orgasms aren't mine, my pleasure neither. -->Touching rules

10-29-2017, 09:51 AM	#3
Butterfly A Butterfly Princess <3 Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 4,640 Blog Entries: 515	People can be whoever they want to be on the internet. There are always going to be people who lie about their age, gender, weight, hair color, job, etc. 50 percent of the people around here who say they are 18 are probably underage. That is why it is important to go slow, get to know people before you trust them and be aware of the risks before doing anything you may regret. __________________ On Hiatus PMs will not be responded to My heart belongs to my Husband: Mr. Devious Being tortured frequently by my Dom SleepySloth Served by my loyal worm Jaro Caring for my little TheBrat Recordings ❤ FAQ ❤ AMA Likes/Limits ❤ Toys Discord: butterfly.cm ❤

11-01-2017, 12:55 AM	#5
Runesmith Stranger with candy Join Date: Jan 2013 Location: Stuttgart, Germany Posts: 989 Blog Entries: 20	Many people "pad up their resumé" on the internet. Reading my posts, you might think I am a handsome, debonair and devilishly clever spy/international man of mystery, who drives a wickedly powerful 2017 Aston Martin DB9. But in real life, I only drive a DB7. __________________ Male, Straight, Dominant Likes: Anal (giving), rough play, CNC, bondage, humiliation, degradation, objectification, obedience training, online control Limits: scat, underage, playing with males; text speak To play with me, you must be able to prove your gender. Runesmith's Forgiveness thread - you're gonna need this My stories: Non-consensual Roleplay With a Stranger The Cabin in The Woods The Shanghai Girl Palace on The Beach My poems (yeah, poems): The Winter

11-01-2017, 02:09 AM	#6
MiStraLan Member Join Date: Aug 2017 Posts: 32	Says the guy who keeps claiming here that he's up for (nearly) all dares and challenges, but hasn't reacted a single time I tried to contact him via kik, not even to say he isn't interested after all. __________________ M/40/gay - switch/dom

11-01-2017, 06:57 AM	#12
Edgeandenial Distinguished Member Join Date: Jan 2017 Posts: 510 Blog Entries: 4	It's internet ...most of the profiles are misleading here. Only way you can be sure is by getting to mow them better as a person before jumping into doing tasks or play and other stuff

11-01-2017, 07:32 AM	#13
sweetie_sub1983 getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Aug 2016 Posts: 280 Blog Entries: 1	I love the playful way this thread has gone. Runesmith, you are now a legend...as long as the KGB doesn't figure out if it's really a DB9 or DB7 Like Edgeandenial says, you really have to spend some time getting to know the people you chat with as it does seem that a lot of the profiles are misleading. I don't know about most, but certainly a lot. __________________ Likes: Anal, Chastity, Tease and Denial, Light CBT, Dominant Women Dislikes: Hidden public, long term denial, body writing, Limits: urine/feces play, ATM, face pics, full public, permanent My sissy name is Anna PM Dares: http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=79818

11-02-2017, 08:14 AM	#14
kurious kat getDare's Kinkiest Kitty Join Date: Dec 2012 Location: USA Posts: 700 Blog Entries: 26	Runesmith does that to all the threads. It keeps the rest of us from getting catty. ...Most of us, anyway. To answer the original poster, it's healthy to look for dare or chat partners who have things in common with you. Age brackets can definitely be a factor if you're trying to find a romantic partner, depending on what you are looking for and enjoy. But keep in mind that people get a lot of grief over their looks in general, so it's perfectly common for folks to use a younger picture, or a found picture, simply to avoid getting cruel messages from strangers about it. There are a lot of guys here with a girl's avatar, too, because the real or anime person shown is what they're looking for -- or how they see themselves in their heads, rather than the mirror. Of course, some people will lie about their gender or age outright (see Butterfly's point about minors who claim to be 18, among others), but my experience has been that the majority of interesting users here seem to be honest when it comes up directly. If you find you are enjoying someone's ideas enough for their age or gender to be relevant on an ongoing basis, you can always contact them privately and ask.