Spanking- punishment or reward?

Edgeandenial · 04-17-2017, 09:10 PM

What does spanking mean to you ? Is it more of a reward or a punishment? Or a mix of both ??

How do you lure your Dom to give you more spanking?

nina@ · 04-17-2017, 10:24 PM

Spanking to me is one of the first kinks of mine and I like spanking on specific parts

It definitely seems like a reward to me within my pain threshold but a (mild but still fun?) punishment if it goes overboard. I can't lure as I don't think he likes giving that.

subcody · 04-17-2017, 11:07 PM

For me it can be both, just like in a contact sport pain can be fun and add to the activity, but if you are not in the moment pain sucks.

Aron · 04-17-2017, 11:14 PM

For me, I thinking spanking can be a mix of both reward and punishment, I have had many different subs that like spankimg and some who can't stand it. I think it really depends on the person you're with. I love making a girl spank I love how teasing it can be I love how much control it gives me and a few really fun sessions come to mind when I think about this question.

Good question

Thanks

Edgeandenial · 04-17-2017, 11:51 PM

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Originally Posted by nina@

Spanking to me is one of the first kinks of mine and I like spanking on specific parts

It definitely seems like a reward to me within my pain threshold but a (mild but still fun?) punishment if it goes overboard. I can't lure as I don't think he likes giving that.

It's a mix for me as well.. depending on the implement and the intensity ofcourse. And omg EXACTLY why i asked how do you lure them into giving more of it because i don't think my Dom enjoys giving me too much for bare hand spanking either *snickers*

Evermore · 04-18-2017, 12:18 AM

A little of both to me. I like my fair share, but some spots I am not as good at receiving pain.

Luring in my dom for it? No gonna happen =/ He knows me way too well for that to work lol

m55uk4younger · 04-25-2017, 07:32 AM

I think spanking can be both a reward and or a punishment. It really depends on the Master and sub.
I love to spank them and and sexually tease them, it shows how much control over them I have and what control they give to me, wether in fun, loving or anger!

Sir.

Butterfly · 05-17-2017, 02:13 PM

For me spanking is purely pleasurable. I do not usually get punished, and because of some abuse in my past, spanking is a limit when used in regards to punishment.

If you want more spanking, ask for it. Communication is key. I wanted to be spanked more, and wanted to push both of our comfort level in regards to the number of spankings, so we recently did a spanking thread before our wedding, and it was great!

MastersVoice · 05-21-2017, 07:49 AM

Spanking like any kink can be a punishment or reward dependent on the sub.

I have had subs who have loved a light spanking but anything more vigorous becomes uncomfortable.

I have also had subs where they want to be spanked until they fall into sub space, sometimes to the point of crying.

Like anything, the sub's kinks, pain threshold and consent determine what should be a reward or punishment and is unique to them.

MV

IceMaiden · 05-22-2017, 06:18 AM

Spanking is never a punishment for me unless its on the nipples or clit. Anywhere else is a reward and I want all the spanks all the time.

04-17-2017, 09:10 PM	#1
Edgeandenial Distinguished Member Join Date: Jan 2017 Posts: 510 Blog Entries: 4	Spanking- punishment or reward? What does spanking mean to you ? Is it more of a reward or a punishment? Or a mix of both ?? How do you lure your Dom to give you more spanking? Last edited by Edgeandenial; 04-17-2017 at 09:25 PM.

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subcody Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2016 Location: aberdeen wa Posts: 129 Blog Entries: 12	For me it can be both, just like in a contact sport pain can be fun and add to the activity, but if you are not in the moment pain sucks. __________________ 32 year old bisexual slave Likes bondage, anal, pain, humiliation, submission, pictures . Limits Scat, drinking pee, public, anything to do with family, illegal, extreme pain, anything I feel is too dangerous, social suicide, anal without lube, My equipment http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=81293 My training and rules Pm dares http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=81407

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Aron Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2014 Posts: 104	For me, I thinking spanking can be a mix of both reward and punishment, I have had many different subs that like spankimg and some who can't stand it. I think it really depends on the person you're with. I love making a girl spank I love how teasing it can be I love how much control it gives me and a few really fun sessions come to mind when I think about this question. Good question Thanks __________________ No longer using getdare

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Evermore Account Banned Join Date: Feb 2016 Posts: 1,225	A little of both to me. I like my fair share, but some spots I am not as good at receiving pain. Luring in my dom for it? No gonna happen =/ He knows me way too well for that to work lol __________________ Moving to a new account .

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Butterfly A Butterfly Princess <3 Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 4,640 Blog Entries: 515	For me spanking is purely pleasurable. I do not usually get punished, and because of some abuse in my past, spanking is a limit when used in regards to punishment. If you want more spanking, ask for it. Communication is key. I wanted to be spanked more, and wanted to push both of our comfort level in regards to the number of spankings, so we recently did a spanking thread before our wedding, and it was great! __________________ On Hiatus PMs will not be responded to My heart belongs to my Husband: Mr. Devious Being tortured frequently by my Dom SleepySloth Served by my loyal worm Jaro Caring for my little TheBrat Recordings ❤ FAQ ❤ AMA Likes/Limits ❤ Toys Discord: butterfly.cm ❤

04-17-2017, 10:24 PM	#2
nina@ getDare Succubus Join Date: Jul 2016 Posts: 1,665 Blog Entries: 25	Spanking to me is one of the first kinks of mine and I like spanking on specific parts It definitely seems like a reward to me within my pain threshold but a (mild but still fun?) punishment if it goes overboard. I can't lure as I don't think he likes giving that.

04-25-2017, 07:32 AM	#7
m55uk4younger Distinguished Member Join Date: Apr 2015 Location: UK Posts: 956	I think spanking can be both a reward and or a punishment. It really depends on the Master and sub. I love to spank them and and sexually tease them, it shows how much control over them I have and what control they give to me, wether in fun, loving or anger! Sir.

05-21-2017, 07:49 AM	#9
MastersVoice getDare Sweetheart Join Date: May 2015 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 448 Blog Entries: 13	Spanking like any kink can be a punishment or reward dependent on the sub. I have had subs who have loved a light spanking but anything more vigorous becomes uncomfortable. I have also had subs where they want to be spanked until they fall into sub space, sometimes to the point of crying. Like anything, the sub's kinks, pain threshold and consent determine what should be a reward or punishment and is unique to them. MV __________________ Dominant \| Male \| 39 \| Straight \| United Kingdom My Loves, Likes & Limits

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IceMaiden Truth or Dare Zealot Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Gallifrey Posts: 6,352 Blog Entries: 163	Spanking is never a punishment for me unless its on the nipples or clit. Anywhere else is a reward and I want all the spanks all the time. __________________ ♡ My Stories. ♡ FAQ. ♡ AMA♡ Happily loved, owned and collared by AbusiveMaster. I Love This Girl Unconditionally. Always And Forever ♡ Get a rule from me here. NOTlooking for a dom/sub or to play a game, exchange dares, pictures etc!