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01-31-2018, 09:04 AM | #16 |
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This whole thread is a troll, IMHO.
There is value in having an ignore list - you can reduce the amount of really hateful and hurtful stuff you see, let alone deal with. It is also important to realize that some people use our own issues and needs to bend and warp us to fit their twisted view of reality. AND: Oddly, nudity can be a business problem for big websites. Look at the difficulties FetLife had last year - nearly got shut down because its bank was pressured by the credit card companies over the content of many pics people had up, among other issues. Other websites and even member-only forums have faced similar problems and a few have had to close because of it. I know one little female-run forum that was only held up by a 2nd mortgage on the operator's house, when the banks refused to deal with them. Lots more besides, but if there is no need for nudity then it can be a *lot* easier to stay in business. And: Mental Health is a good thing. Everyone should be healthy. Many people scoff at the whole field, just as some people scoff at putting a band-aid on a cut, (don't be a baby) or taking antibiotics for an infection (don't be a wuss, I never take pills), or other physical health issues. Well you can't have one without the other - health of all kinds is good. / Signing off the thread - for my own health! |
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01-31-2018, 10:24 AM | #17 | |
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01-31-2018, 10:31 AM | #18 | |
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01-31-2018, 11:25 AM | #19 | |
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This is a great idea, hopefully it will create more interesting discussions and help ideas spread. I would only suggest that everyone engaging does so with an open mind and in a logical way.
As far as the current topic, even though I agree with some points the OP made I found atownesq's first response quite convincing. Quote:
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01-31-2018, 11:08 PM | #20 |
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Nah, I just don't value your opinion enough to waste my valuable time reading it. Life's too short to waste it on your ilk. (Not to mention trying to decipher what the hell "where so to argue reasonably" even means). Best of luck to you, have a nice day.
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01-31-2018, 11:26 PM | #21 |
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On nudity - I prefer the way getDare is. Right now, it's a fun site for people to interact with each other. Allow nudity, and it will turn in to yet another shitty porn site. If you want nudity, sign up to KinkTalk. There were times I wished that getDare would allow nudity, so that I can post the photos that go with my non-fiction stories, but I understand the need to keep the site clean, and I respect that. If nudity is allowed, getDare will degenerate in to another KinkTalk... where people sign up to ogle and masturbate... and spam.
Findom - It's a powerful control mechanism (in terms of controlling what the sub spends her money on), but it frequently gets abused as a mechanism to relieve the horny of their hard earned cash. Most findoms and findommes are nothing but prostitutes, in the pay for play definition. Mental health - unless you are a qualified academically to discuss it, stay off this topic. Most people without medical training have no idea what mental health issues are, and are unaware of the issues they themselves have - as at least 2 posters on this thread have demonstrated through their writing styles.
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02-01-2018, 08:40 AM | #22 | |
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And about your trick to evade the age of consent of 18 in certain states and countries, you can't use this trick on getDare. This forum is hosted in California, USA, where the legal age of consent is 18 y/o. This age of consent applies to getDare in its whole and for everyone who's on the forum. However, if you take everything that goes on to another place where the age of consent is lower, you can probably do this... I guess.
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02-01-2018, 09:34 AM | #23 |
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Just regarding nudity, I think you would have even less females on GetDare if nudity was allowed. I mean if nude avatars or profile pictures were allowed, I for one would leave. I do not wish to see naked pics everywhere, believe you me, if I wanted to see naked guys, I have no shortage of options. (not that I don't like seeing guys naked.... But just don't want it forced on me) if it was just allowed in the album section, I guess that wouldn't be as bad, as I can avoid that if I want, but I'd still miss being able go there and see the kind of pictures that are currently posted, than having to go through loads of naked pictures to find them.
And as Riskyflame has pointed out, it would be very difficult to make sure no underage people were viewing the site.
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02-01-2018, 03:22 PM | #24 | ||||||
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Your use of a picture has just displayed your lack of intellectual ability to debate. Good job. Please do not SPAM on my thread. Thank you. Quote:
It's not just facebook. Mental Health is being glorified everywhere - Facebook is just a specific platform. It's gone from a serious thing that is legit, to a trend. Suddenly, all these people are coming out of the woodworks - wanting attention, self diagnosing themselves as an excuse to be seen as a poor little victim; as opposed to actually dealing with their own problems. Quote:
Notice to Immature Users This thread is to encourage debate; and raise awareness of a number of issues. It is not to insult each other, it is not to spam pointless pictures and gifs and it's not an excuse to kiss peoples asses either. It's open, honest and frank discussion. I have no problem with people having different opinions to me, if someone comes to me with a different opinion and lays it out in the appropriate way, I have no issue discussing with them. If your intention is merely to come here and look to start trouble, then please do not insult the intellegence or intergrity of my thread and go and sit in your blog and rant. The 'Debate Corner' series is for smart, educated individuals who are able to discuss like adults - not for petty little children who do not have any valid points to make so they use insults instead - like a few of the people who have commented on this thread. Thank you.
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02-01-2018, 03:26 PM | #25 | |
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As for your comments into keeping underage users off the site, I think what many people are failing to understand is that legally, we've done everything that we NEED to do. We've posted disclaimers throughout the forum and the registration process that viewing of the site should be 18. We've created 18+ sections so that those who come on the site as a guest are advised legally. We've done everything that the law requires us to do to curb the youngsters joining and viewing nudity. If they choose to lie about their age, then the burdon of guilt falls to them - not us as a site.
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02-01-2018, 04:12 PM | #26 |
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Gotta throw my two cents in here:
1. On findom: I argue that as a lifestyle, BDSM can have both liberatory and regressive tendencies. One can consent to the hierarchical nature of BDSM and thus exercise control over the gender roles and relations that restrict us in everyday society. However, for that to be the case, the relationship between dominant and submissive must be one that is well communicated, healthy, and practiced with constant upkeep and consent. As I'm sure we all know, this standard isn't the norm for Getdare. Too often do we willfully ignore the humanity of the person on the other side of the text chat, using them to get ourselves off. That dehumanized and exploitative relationship is far too common in findom. Financial dominants often view their relationships with their subs as means to a monetary end, rather than a relationship exploring that kink between healthy, consenting adults. Findom becomes a relationship of cold exploitation, oiled through the manipulation of the sub's kinks. I think the unhealthy form of this relationship is far too common, especially online. Findom turns relationships into commodities, to be bought and sold to the highest bidder, and that relationship lacks the basic humanity that is so hard to find on the internet. 2. We've got kinktalk. That's the compromise that already exists. I think we'd lose a ton of people if getdare allowed nudity. We'd probably become a site filled to the brim with dick pics and we've got enough of that on the internet. 3. The mental health epidemic is the result of this unnatural modern age. It's an issue that should be addressed out in the open, in honest and frank conversation. Telling people to "Man up" is simply ignoring the problems of mental health and the causal relationship between society and the mind. To be callous towards mental health is to plunge those trying to survive a war with inner demons into further depths of darkness. Empathy and kindness are the ways individuals can help address our mental health problems. Fixing it however, cannot be done through telling people to stuff their emotions into a small box.
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02-01-2018, 05:23 PM | #27 | |
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02-01-2018, 06:04 PM | #28 |
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I understand where you are coming from on mental illness. There are people who use it as an excuse, people who have fake service animals and a variety of different scenarios. At the same time, who are we to judge who is real and who is fake. Sure there might be some obvious cases, but at the same time, for example, someone can say they are suicidal for the attention, and they may not be suicidal, but they may have some other underlying situation such as being depressed and not wanting to get to that point so they use it as a call for help. I do agree things like trigger words and safe spaces have gone a bit to far, but at the same time, it is important to realize the value of these as well. We still warn people for gore, intense content, strobe lights and lasers for seizure (or is it stroke) hazards, and many more things. We have safe spaces such as women's resource centers, rainbow centers, and club rooms for different races and ethnicities. And while people think they are racist, it just means a space for like minded people to come together. In fact, getDare can be a safe space for all of us with kinks who want to feel like we belong. I want trigger warnings if someone is going to show me something with needles, knife play, and blood. I want the option to say I cannot watch this. In turn I also feel people have taken this to a bit of the extreme. I.E. Going to something you know will offend/trigger you and still doing it anyways. We as a population simply do things we do not want to do so we can complain about them afterwards and try to take it away from everyone. With that being said, I think it is very important to mention and end with, most of us are not mental health professionals, which you use as a counter argument, but in the case of my argument, it also means we cannot prove and disprove who actually has mental illnesses. We simply do not know because someone may be good at hiding it, have a different way of handling it, or be completely open. I wish there was an easier way to rule out the people faking, but to my knowledge, there is not. You simply need to find the people you feel the best with in your life and it someone feels negative and toxic then let them go. Nudity: There is a setting in getDare where albums can be seen by non members of getDare, I recently had someone I view as a stalker and I spent time extensively going through the settings to make sure I can control which posts this person sees and does not see. So to my knowledge, guests can see albums. Although I did try it in incognito mode and you are right you do need to log in to see albums. I also went through to look at albums through a person's page and you cannot click through a person's album that way either. But there is an exception. You can see visitor messages, you can see profile pictures and you can see pictures posted in threads. In my opinion, there is not a way you can say nudity only in albums where albums are often linked to threads for reports. For kink talk, there is a forced log in before you can see any pictures or threads. On getDare, the reason that guests can see it is because there is no forced log in. I think leaving getDare open like this can allow for open sharing. A lot of us lurked before we finally join. You see it on almost every AMA site. Myself, I do not join things unless I can lurk and check it out first. I do not want to waste the time, no matter how simple, if I end up not liking it later. I do want to reiterate a point again repeatedly. I have kinktalk for one reason and one reason only. It is only so I can see pictures posted in reports. I do not check my kinktalk otherwise. I find no use in it other than a picture sharing space. I find that most people who take the time to write blogs, dares, and stories spend most of their time on getDare anyways. I want to second Sam in saying if I saw penises as profile pictures all the time, I would be gone. And I know you want to tell me that's not true, but no offense guys, you are obsessed with your dicks especially when you are horny and denied which is when most of you are on this site. Not all, but most. Most of you do not ask if we want to see your dick before getting sent pictures or links to pictures. If nudity was allowed on getDare, people would post dicks in chat. I mean someone posts their naked butt in chat all the time just to be a troll and quite frankly it makes me sick and makes me want to leave chat because I want to talk with people. If I wanted to see it, I have my ways to ask. I agree with one of the staff above that it would just become a porn sharing site that is male dominated picture wise. Contrary to popular belief, most women I know, do not want to stare at dicks all day and I cannot make this clear enough. If you would wine and dine us in person, we probably want the same things through chat. Or the conversation and getting to know you part. I think there are enough methods (kinktalk, snapchat, kik, discord, and etc) if you want to share pictures of your genitalia. Because please do not forget, it is not nudity that is banned. I think most of us have been saying nudity, but it's actually a ban of penises, vaginas, nipples, and assholes. Not butts, breasts, and other skin. I think this is an important distinction to make. I know there are a lot of guys who want to see more nipples and vaginas. At the same time with this being a male dominated forum, I think for the small amount of females, it is hard enough. In fact, I recommend your next debate topic to be something related to that. I would really like to see the female population of getDare to have more of a chance to share how uncomfortable, attacked and otherwise annoying behavior that they have to deal with every day and why males (there are some exceptions) think it is okay to solicit tasks, mistresses, subs, pictures, and other things when it is clear that most of us state we do not want it. In fact, I am surprised and it's hard to say this, but I think the audience you seem to draw, might be some of the audience that needs to hear it.
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02-01-2018, 06:07 PM | #29 | |
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Everyone seems to want to be offended these days, and that comes back to the point I made earlier about how we are becoming a society of victims, and I do think a lot of this can be drawn back to liberal principles and ideas.
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02-01-2018, 06:08 PM | #30 |
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It's definitely BDSM
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