Hi, welcome to getDare :-)
I knew I was submissive at a very early age (not that I knew the word). I always drew pictures of women being kidnapped and tied up. I tied my Barbies up and later, myself.
When I was around 15, we got internet at home, and I explored every inch of bdsm I could find.
I watched movies and read a great deal. That’s when I learned the word “submissive”, and that’s what I am.
Throughout relationships I have tried to explore my submissive side, but I’ve never really found a partner who was really into it...
Until... I joined getDare, almost 2 years ago. (I didn’t find out about the site until then.)
I started to play in a few threads, and made myself some pm dares. One of them was cornertime. Within 2 days, I got a message from Sir Sam, giving me a creative corner time dare and to this day, he is still my owner.
He sounded so masterly and strict, and it turned me on very much. During our first chats, he started to humiliate me a little, make me do painful tasks, make me feel really small.
But he was also respectful and very considerate of my real life. I wasn’t used to being treated that way, but at that instant, I knew that that was what I longed for.
So, that is basically what I want in a bdsm relationship. Mutual respect. But also a very clear hierarchy during play.
I think I can speak for my owner if I say that that is also what he looks for in his sub.
I wouldn’t worry too much about being ready. Just start to participate in some threads, interact with people, make some pm dares for yourself.
If someone comes along, start at the beginning. Test if things work for you.
You’ll develop your likes and limits as you are playing. They will keep evolving over time.
Have fun!
