[sweetsong]

The best place to start is getting counseling yourself and then encouraging your mom to go also.

Also, I would be wary about what your grandparents are saying. Sometimes people try and convince minors that something happened that didn't, just so things can work out the way they want. If they're trying to build a case against him, your "testimony" of raping you as a child would be useful to them.

On the other hand, sometimes our minds do block out the horrible things that happened to us as a child as a coping mechanism.

In the case of my friend, her therapist knew how to help her "find" the memories, process them and work through them.

It's hard, but your mom is the only one who has the power to stop it. She will need support but she has to want to be rid of him. Kenneth.s made some good suggestions.

.... I think I kind of answered the questions. >.>