[LilAngel]

So, is BDSM something that goes against the societal grain? Many call it the ‘alternative lifestyle’ since it is something quite different from the mainstream. Personally, I opt to explain it to the outside world as less as possible unless I was asked or something was assumed of me. ‘Vanilla’ people cannot comprehend this way of life. Society promotes equality, so the idea of total power exchange may not be the easiest thing to digest.

People are always seeking ways to use things against one another. This is evident in relationships with peers and friends, court battles and problems with exes. Humans have always been ‘trained’ to attempt to elevate themselves at the expense of others.

Many fail to recognize that children and family members are not to be clued in on how we live. Many do not need an ex knowing that he or she is now owned. A child does not need to know the lifestyle choices one makes. These are people who could cause damage with the information.

As mentioned before, this is the ‘alternative’ lifestyle. People living like this are ostracized by the majority of society. Most are too close minded to understand or tolerate the decisions we make. Rather, they try to implement their belief system upon those engaging in BDSM. In other words, an ‘us versus them’ mentality. Many have used themselves, and have put themselves out there for alternative lifestyles. Society is beginning to be more tolerant, but there is still a long way to go. The gay community made great strides yet society is still lagging in the areas of polygamy, M/s, and communal living. Their prejudices still exist.

But why does society name this lifestyle ‘ill’, ‘perverted’ or ‘bizarre’? Quite often, the picture of BDSM is reduced to the idea of crude corporal punishments. People believe what they see in porn flicks. But understand, that no. This is not true. And porn shouldn’t drag the lifestyle behind.