[Wedgiebondagebabe]

Mental Illness:
I understand where you are coming from on mental illness. There are people who use it as an excuse, people who have fake service animals and a variety of different scenarios. At the same time, who are we to judge who is real and who is fake. Sure there might be some obvious cases, but at the same time, for example, someone can say they are suicidal for the attention, and they may not be suicidal, but they may have some other underlying situation such as being depressed and not wanting to get to that point so they use it as a call for help.

I do agree things like trigger words and safe spaces have gone a bit to far, but at the same time, it is important to realize the value of these as well. We still warn people for gore, intense content, strobe lights and lasers for seizure (or is it stroke) hazards, and many more things. We have safe spaces such as women's resource centers, rainbow centers, and club rooms for different races and ethnicities. And while people think they are racist, it just means a space for like minded people to come together. In fact, getDare can be a safe space for all of us with kinks who want to feel like we belong. I want trigger warnings if someone is going to show me something with needles, knife play, and blood. I want the option to say I cannot watch this. In turn I also feel people have taken this to a bit of the extreme. I.E. Going to something you know will offend/trigger you and still doing it anyways. We as a population simply do things we do not want to do so we can complain about them afterwards and try to take it away from everyone.

With that being said, I think it is very important to mention and end with, most of us are not mental health professionals, which you use as a counter argument, but in the case of my argument, it also means we cannot prove and disprove who actually has mental illnesses. We simply do not know because someone may be good at hiding it, have a different way of handling it, or be completely open. I wish there was an easier way to rule out the people faking, but to my knowledge, there is not. You simply need to find the people you feel the best with in your life and it someone feels negative and toxic then let them go.

Nudity:

There is a setting in getDare where albums can be seen by non members of getDare, I recently had someone I view as a stalker and I spent time extensively going through the settings to make sure I can control which posts this person sees and does not see. So to my knowledge, guests can see albums. Although I did try it in incognito mode and you are right you do need to log in to see albums. I also went through to look at albums through a person's page and you cannot click through a person's album that way either. But there is an exception. You can see visitor messages, you can see profile pictures and you can see pictures posted in threads. In my opinion, there is not a way you can say nudity only in albums where albums are often linked to threads for reports. For kink talk, there is a forced log in before you can see any pictures or threads. On getDare, the reason that guests can see it is because there is no forced log in. I think leaving getDare open like this can allow for open sharing. A lot of us lurked before we finally join. You see it on almost every AMA site. Myself, I do not join things unless I can lurk and check it out first. I do not want to waste the time, no matter how simple, if I end up not liking it later.

I do want to reiterate a point again repeatedly. I have kinktalk for one reason and one reason only. It is only so I can see pictures posted in reports. I do not check my kinktalk otherwise. I find no use in it other than a picture sharing space. I find that most people who take the time to write blogs, dares, and stories spend most of their time on getDare anyways. I want to second Sam in saying if I saw penises as profile pictures all the time, I would be gone. And I know you want to tell me that's not true, but no offense guys, you are obsessed with your dicks especially when you are horny and denied which is when most of you are on this site. Not all, but most. Most of you do not ask if we want to see your dick before getting sent pictures or links to pictures. If nudity was allowed on getDare, people would post dicks in chat. I mean someone posts their naked butt in chat all the time just to be a troll and quite frankly it makes me sick and makes me want to leave chat because I want to talk with people. If I wanted to see it, I have my ways to ask.

I agree with one of the staff above that it would just become a porn sharing site that is male dominated picture wise. Contrary to popular belief, most women I know, do not want to stare at dicks all day and I cannot make this clear enough. If you would wine and dine us in person, we probably want the same things through chat. Or the conversation and getting to know you part. I think there are enough methods (kinktalk, snapchat, kik, discord, and etc) if you want to share pictures of your genitalia. Because please do not forget, it is not nudity that is banned. I think most of us have been saying nudity, but it's actually a ban of penises, vaginas, nipples, and assholes. Not butts, breasts, and other skin. I think this is an important distinction to make. I know there are a lot of guys who want to see more nipples and vaginas. At the same time with this being a male dominated forum, I think for the small amount of females, it is hard enough. In fact, I recommend your next debate topic to be something related to that. I would really like to see the female population of getDare to have more of a chance to share how uncomfortable, attacked and otherwise annoying behavior that they have to deal with every day and why males (there are some exceptions) think it is okay to solicit tasks, mistresses, subs, pictures, and other things when it is clear that most of us state we do not want it. In fact, I am surprised and it's hard to say this, but I think the audience you seem to draw, might be some of the audience that needs to hear it.