[MissMaria]

Ok so I just finished reading, you have made a lot of good points there, but if I may, I believe you have one thing backwards... You see like you I am very submissive and do enjoy being controlled, I have also had a few of the same encounters as you baring mainly the sex call lines and the prostitutes... but, it was not the porn that was the problem, it is your addictive nature,

Is it the casinos fault a gambling addict walked in and spent more money than he had trying to make back what he lost when most would have walked away,

Is it a plastic surgeons fault that she can not see she is already beautiful before the produces,

No the truth is some people get over addicted to things and dont know when to slow down, I have always kept myself safe and at worst there are a few less than appropriate images of me out there but in a sea of millions there is little chance I will ever bump into someone that knows me,

The real problem is not that you were into the life style or even that you became addicted you never really had any control over that, what ruined it all for you was the lieing and that is all on you and not the life style, I am sorry that I come across as a bitch but the truth is I have been into this life style since 13 as well as I can remember and have never had issue because I have never lied to my partner about it even my father knows to an extent but I dont try to hide a part of me....

For that while my partner does not understand why I would want to drink my own urine because someone who cant see me on the other end of a computer told me to or why I would crawl around barking like a dog for example she has noticed that the sex is better when I get my BDSM fore play.

I just think a story like this can unescceserily scare people away from the scene before they have a chance to see if it is for them and wanted to give a second perspective, yes done wrong and handled in a bad way the lifestyle is dangerous but so is crossing the road it is all about making the right friends who can keep you level and when you think of it as cyber world and the real world it is bound to go wrong there both the real world and as long as you keep that in mind you are safe.