how do i be a master exactly

[jakc333]

I just got a slave they are pretty good though i am not big on forcing if they really dont want to. they dont do naked and they dont seem to mind taking off pants but shirt more. They have a webcam though not a digital camera. I am not going to force them to do antying dangerous like cutting themself but i dont want to be to whimpy. any advice on how to be a good master?

edit: they are female btw

[Chloe]

Well... I think the 1st thing you need to ask yourself is why do you want to be a Master? What do you seek in such a relationship? You know, that's not just something that you decide one morning... Maybe ask other Masters around who have experience. That could perhaps help. But only if you're really serious & dedicated to learning.

[jakc333]

i want to be because it sounds fun to me and i dont want to be a slave (it is kind of a casual slave master relationship with mine) any ideas of masters who could give me advice

[Chloe]

If you are new at this then yes I think a casual relationship is good to begin with. :)

Hmmm... What could I tell you... Get to know your slave not just the usual likes/dislikes/limits & such but as a person as well. Building trust is very important & showing that you care is vital here & you'll achieve it by communicating with your slave.

Yes a Master/slave can & should be fun but remember that it has to be fun for both of you :)

Yes there are some Masters here who could help you & most probably answer better than me your question... But it's up to them to reply if they want to.

[Sum]

In honesty i think chloe has covered most things that i would say, other things i've already said here http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthread.php?t=7392

It's primarily about trust, they have to trust that you won't hurt them, and you have to trust that they'll do the tasks or say if they can't or won't

If you're being a master you take on responsibility over your slave when you play, they are in your care. If they hurt themselves because of a task it is your fault, and yours alone. This is another reason communication is so important they must feel able to speak up if a task you set is too extreme. They mustn't be scared to say no at times.

Not sure what else to say, have a read of the thread i linked above, apart from that Chloe's said most things.
It's really not something you can teach that well, so best advice is have a play and have a chat before and after it, before just chatting to them normally, and after chatting about what they did for what were the bits the liked most etc.

That actually leads on to another thing, take your time, i know when i talk to my slave to allow at a minimum three hours. (and often i'll only let her cum right at the end of that, gets her rather horny, and sometimes she can squirt for me..... annnyway that's off topic ;) )

edit
If it's ideas for tasks you're looking for that's a slightly differnt thing, but it's still about communication.
hmm, pegs are fun, spanking, masturbation control. Things like that.

If they're not comfterble doing that over cam don't push it, you're lucky they have a cam at all so you can see who you're talking to is who they say they are.
Hmm two you say, they together or seperate if they're together maybe they don't like being naked together? Things like this you should try to find out, communication again.

[Merlin]

sum1 you where faster so there is not much more to say for me:)
as always i have to agree with all sum1 (my intellectual twin) said.
All i can add is 2 girls are a lot harder than 1 so maybe try to separate them and talk to each one alone.
Be sure they want to do these things too.
Be sure you want to take the responsibility for your subs.
And take your time.

If you really want to talk about it feel free to contact me.

Merlin

Edit: Just saw sum1 you already had (of course :D) the idea to separate them...